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Unloving Moments

A coach suggested that we collect some of the UNloving things that people say, especially the ones that the speaker would not recognize as unloving. "I hate you" is universally recognized as unloving, but we have so many subtle—and therefore…
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Never Give Up on Loving Your Children (Video Clip)

Children can be manipulative, difficult, withdrawn, angry, and resentful as you learn to love them. Despite the difficulties, never stop loving them. https://youtu.be/gnN5kz2d3T0
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The Price of Not Teaching Your Children Responsibility (Video Clip)

Teaching a child to be responsible—how to work reliably, consistently, and cheerfully—can be difficult, but the alternative is very expensive and painful. https://youtu.be/mTGC0nNB7fI
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How Do We Educate our Children about Life? (Video Clip)

Children learn algebra and history for many hours a day, but then we completely neglect their education in life. And we pay for this horrible education. https://youtu.be/vmJpsLOmA10

Learning to See

When we are born and open our eyes, electrical impulses are generated within the retina, travel down the optic nerves, and wind their way through various neuronal synapses until they reach the occipital cortex in the rear of the brain. From…

River Barges

I know a man who captains a towboat on the Mississippi and other large rivers in the United States. These boats have enormous engines designed to push very large loads on the river—loads as heavy as 1800 tractor-trailer rigs. On occasion,…
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Example of an 18-y.o. Girl Already Suicidal, Cutting, Depressed, and Medicated (Video Clip)

How can parents deal with a child who is completely out of control and heading rapidly toward death? And how did the child get to that place? https://youtu.be/5f3-VNUq6gU
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What is the Effect of Being Unloving Toward a Child? (Video Clip)

After years of not loving our children, they are unspeakably wounded, and they don’t recover from those wounds easily. https://youtu.be/BQDIMGIeGh8
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How Do We Teach Children Who Cleverly Avoid Wise Choices? (Video Clip)

Children need to feel like we trust them, but with some things we do need to follow up on them closely. https://youtu.be/q6sUXW2sXfo
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How Do We Teach Children Older than 18? (Video Clip)

So many of our children are addicted to various substances and behaviors. What can we do about it? https://youtu.be/Sz3pA5Go06c
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A Real Love Merry Christmas Message From An Adorable Teenager

A Merry Christmas message from an adorable teenager who is expressing her miraculous heart and feelings about Real Love. https://youtu.be/Gto6PoJTNME
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A Real Love Merry Christmas Message From An Adorable Teenager

A Merry Christmas message from an adorable teenager who is expressing her miraculous heart and feelings about Real Love. https://youtu.be/Gto6PoJTNME
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Kids Do Not Need Praise (Video Clip)

Children want your genuine interest in them and what they’re doing, not your praise for what they’re doing. https://youtu.be/uzkZky37xJI
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Do You Know What Your Children Are Learning? (Video Clip)

Parents have a strong tendency—out of fear—to abdicate their responsibility to teach their children how to be loving and responsible, and their children suffer for it. https://youtu.be/0_uUf0li4-Y

The Wounds of "Love"

Years ago I talked with Kristine, who told me that one of her two sons was using drugs and was in trouble with the law, while her daughter was in a terrible relationship. She had also recently divorced her husband, who had numerous affairs.…
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I Just Don't Remember

A woman wrote to me: "My adult son has been distant from me for many years. After I learned about Real Love, I made contact with him, hoping to heal the wounds he obviously has. But I got more than I bargained for. "I just about lost…
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Your Children Need YOU

The more you allow your children to immerse themselves in electronics, the less they will depend on you for the life education that will determine their future happiness.

Use Your Words

Every day I see or hear about children who speak with anger—even rage—at their parents, usually about something they didn’t get or about a parent’s instructions to do something they didn’t want to do. We have become so accustomed to…
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Another Example of “Good” Parenting

Deb is the mother of two boys, ages seven and ten. She read the Real Love in Parenting book. She has talked to me about parenting on many occasions. But then I talked to her husband and learned how she behaves with her sons. She lays out…