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Being A Parent

With Real Love in Parenting, you can learn how to be the parent you've always wanted to be. "I was at my wits' end. I did not know how to help my children. But now I do. Real Love in Parenting has given me everything I was missing as a p…
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A Crystal Ball

Ten years ago I began to regularly visit Brenda, a widow. Of her six adult children, five would have nothing to do with her—one of whom was in prison for trying to kill her—and one, Audrey, spoke to her only when she wanted money to buy…
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A Real Love Merry Christmas Message From An Adorable Teenager

A Merry Christmas message from an adorable teenager who is expressing her miraculous heart and feelings about Real Love. https://youtu.be/Gto6PoJTNME
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The Wounds of "Love"

Years ago I talked with Kristine, who told me that one of her two sons was using drugs and was in trouble with the law, while her daughter was in a terrible relationship. She had also recently divorced her husband, who had numerous affairs.…
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I Just Don't Remember

A woman wrote to me: "My adult son has been distant from me for many years. After I learned about Real Love, I made contact with him, hoping to heal the wounds he obviously has. But I got more than I bargained for. "I just about lost…
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The Encouraging Word

"Real Love in Parenting has given me everything I was missing as a parent." Discover 9 Simple and Powerfully Effective Principles for Raising Happy and Responsible Children.
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Are You Drowning Your Children?

Cynthia called me and described a family in crisis. Her husband was miserable, their marriage was falling apart, and her children were in various states of anger, rebellion, and withdrawal. After listening to her complaints for a while—and…
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What Do You Think?

Best Way to Help Children Learn From Their Mistakes After I'd been working in the backyard for a couple of hours with my nine-year-old grandson, Brad, his seven-year-old sister, Megan, came out to help us. Because Brad had already learned how…
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True Listening

True listening means focusing entirely on the other person—their words, their fears, their needs. Learn how to listen to and unconditionally love others by reading Real Love for Wise Men and Women.
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The Lies That Will Not Die

Everywhere I go I see people crippled by a low opinion of themselves—everywhere, as though it were a communicable disease. Is that true for you? When you screw up, for example, do you feel painfully guilty? Excessive guilt—sometimes called…
How to Pick Up a Goose—and Raise Your Children - Real Love Blog
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How to Pick Up a Goose—and Raise Your Children

I've heard thousands of stories about how people raise their children. On the one end are the parents who are strict and controlling. They suffer the delusion that if somehow they grip hard enough, their children will not fall. At the other…
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When "Love" Dies

Real Love in a relationship almost never dies. When “love” dies, almost invariably it never existed in the first place. Nobody brought it to the relationship. Learn how to create the loving, lasting, fulfilling relationships you've always…
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The Good Germs

In the past thirty years, asthma rates in children have doubled—with one in ten children suffering from this disorder. A recent study, however—published by the New England Journal of Medicine—discovered that kids who grow up on farms are…
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Why Do We Marry Our Parents?

Recently I spoke with Mark, who described his mother in rather unflattering terms: critical, controlling, nagging, ungrateful. After a couple of minutes I said, "It sounds like you don't enjoy being around your mother much." "No, I really…
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Teaching the Teacher

For years the following piece has been circulated on the Internet as a true story. In fact, it is a short story written many years ago by Elizabeth Silance Ballard, but it is no less powerful for being fictional: As she stood in front of…
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A Tale of Two Mothers and Their Adult Children

Belinda had never been loved, so she had no idea how to love and teach her son, who was 25 at the time I talked to her. Her son tried a few college courses and various jobs, but for the past couple of years he’d lived in the basement, playing…
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Patience

If you think you know something about patience, you have no children. "I was at my wits' end. I did not know how to help my children. But now I do. Real Love in Parenting has given me everything I was missing as a parent." Read or listen…
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Lessons About Praise from a Child

Today two of my grandchildren will return home to their parents after being with us for ten days. During that time Brad–who is nine–worked with me on several occasions out in the yard. We shoveled gravel, hauled dirt, spread grass seed and…
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Solve the Problem

In a relationship, anything that consistently gets between you as an issue—money, sex, kids, whatever—is the thing that will end you. Solve the problem. Now. Solve the problems. Don't let them end you. We have the solutions here. …
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The Power of Unconditional Love in Fear

A few years ago I was carrying my three-year-old grandson, Jack, through a nature preserve in Florida, where we watched a number of alligators sunning themselves at the edge of the water. At one point a large gator moved in the nearby brush,…
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Love for the Asking

One of the many reasons I enjoy spending time with my grandchildren is their complete lack of inhibition around asking for what they want. Last Christmas, for example, one of them, Megan, was attached to my hip almost the entire time she was…