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Fatal Distractions

"It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God." (Matthew 19:24) Often the distractions of Imitation Love—the “riches” of the world—are truly fatal. Don't be fooled by…
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Through The Eyes Of Love

“Many eyes go through the meadow, but few see the flowers in it.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson) With love, all the world is filled with flowers; without it, the landscape is bleak and the burden unbearable. Find Real Love and start experiencing…

Both Sides of Fabric Softener

Many years ago my wife, Donna, asked me, “How soft do you like your towels?” I think of myself as a big, tough guy, who can run a chain saw in each of both hands, but who wants a nasty, scratchy towel? So I said, “Really soft.” Within…

Light and Dark

There is no battle between light and dark. Dark is simply where the light hasn't reached yet. Similarly, there is no battle between love and hate, only love and places where love has not yet flourished.
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What are the Best Techniques in Real Love? (Video Clip)

Real Love is a genuine decision, feeling, and behavior. There is no technique that can successfully simulate such love for long. https://youtu.be/i1jh2EqWxPw

Home on the Range

Music: “Home On the Range” Lyrics: Garth Hammond Oh, give me a home where Love is shown Where the choices and consequences agree Where seldom is heard a discouraging word And the Lies are not told all day Home, home is not strange When…

A Real Love Lullaby

Recently I received this from a member of the RealLove.com website: On one of the Real Love Parenting Facebook groups there was a discussion about writing children's music using basic RL ideas. I wrote a simple lullaby using "The Five Truths". My…
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It’s Important to Know What Real Love is Not (Video Clip)

In the process of understanding what Real Love is, it can help a lot to know what it is NOT. https://youtu.be/fsKu09gzLyw

Truth and Love Give Us Choices

Once a boulder begins rolling down a steep hill, it’s not CHOOSING to fall. It’s just reacting, and that’s exactly how most of us live. The TRUTH and love make the ground level and give us choices.

There is No Calculus

One day I was talking to an electrical engineer, and he was disputing the existence of unconditional love. “Impossible,” he said. “Nobody can love unconditionally.” “Have you ever FELT loved unconditionally?” I asked. “No,…

Without Love

No matter how smart, clever, and productive you are, without love you become like a brilliantly designed race car without any fuel in the tank.
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What is Real Love? (Video Clip)

Would you like a simple, clear definition of Real Love for yourself and that you can share with others? https://youtu.be/FTMphWJ_o2s
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To Most of Us, Real Love is a Foreign Language (Video Clip)

When your partner is having difficulty with your implementing Real Love in your relationship, understand that to other people Real Love is a foreign language. https://youtu.be/HQlkLpzwD50?list=PLfbpVf7D2jvy_t0Yde8M5WhtoTu5Cl29k

What’s the Difference between Traditional Therapy and Real Love Coaching?

I talk to people every day who are exploring Real Love for the first time, and many of them have been treated with a long line of traditional—and non-traditional—therapeutic modalities. Understandably, they ask me to explain the difference…

Sucking Air

Roman Coombes sent me the following metaphor, which I have modified without his permission. Take two drinking straws. One is your Imitation Love conduit, and the other is for Real Love. Put some water in a glass. Place the Imitation Love…
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A Child’s View

Watch a 4- and 7-year old who have been taught the difference between Real Love and Imitation Love by their father.  
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Why Should I Read the Real Love Book? (Video Clip)

Reading the Real Love books won’t make you feel loved, but it will answer so many of your questions about life.

Boredom and Apathy

A man wrote: “You once described boredom to me as 'emptiness without a purpose,' which meant nothing to me at the time but does now. I haven't felt bored for a long, long time.” In the absence of sufficient Real Love, we fill our emptiness…
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No Such Things as Germs

Prior to the mid-1800s people routinely died from infections at a rate that today we can scarcely imagine. Infections contributed to a life expectancy of about 40 years in 1800, compared to roughly 78 now in developed countries. In the United…
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Real Love Makes All the Difference

Having difficulty with your marriage or child? Never, never give up until you’ve tried the one thing—Real Love—that makes all the difference.