Light and Dark

There is no battle between light and dark. Dark is simply where the light hasn't reached yet. Similarly, there is no battle between love and hate, only love and places where love has not yet flourished.

What are the Best Techniques in Real Love? (Video Clip)

Real Love is a genuine decision, feeling, and behavior. There is no technique that can successfully simulate such love for long.

Home on the Range

Music: “Home On the Range” Lyrics: Garth Hammond Oh, give me a home where Love is shown Where the choices and consequences agree Where seldom is heard a discouraging word And the Lies are not told all day Home, home is not strange When…

A Real Love Lullaby

Recently I received this from a member of the website: On one of the Real Love Parenting Facebook groups there was a discussion about writing children's music using basic RL ideas. I wrote a simple lullaby using "The Five Truths". My…

It’s Important to Know What Real Love is Not (Video Clip)

In the process of understanding what Real Love is, it can help a lot to know what it is NOT.

Truth and Love Give Us Choices

Once a boulder begins rolling down a steep hill, it’s not CHOOSING to fall. It’s just reacting, and that’s exactly how most of us live. The TRUTH and love make the ground level and give us choices.

There is No Calculus

One day I was talking to an electrical engineer, and he was disputing the existence of unconditional love. “Impossible,” he said. “Nobody can love unconditionally.” “Have you ever FELT loved unconditionally?” I asked. “No,…

Without Love

No matter how smart, clever, and productive you are, without love you become like a brilliantly designed race car without any fuel in the tank.
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What is Real Love? (Video Clip)

Would you like a simple, clear definition of Real Love for yourself and that you can share with others?

To Most of Us, Real Love is a Foreign Language (Video Clip)

When your partner is having difficulty with your implementing Real Love in your relationship, understand that to other people Real Love is a foreign language.

What’s the Difference between Traditional Therapy and Real Love Coaching?

I talk to people every day who are exploring Real Love for the first time, and many of them have been treated with a long line of traditional—and non-traditional—therapeutic modalities. Understandably, they ask me to explain the difference…

Sucking Air

Roman Coombes sent me the following metaphor, which I have modified without his permission. Take two drinking straws. One is your Imitation Love conduit, and the other is for Real Love. Put some water in a glass. Place the Imitation Love…

A Child’s View

Watch a 4- and 7-year old who have been taught the difference between Real Love and Imitation Love by their father.  

Why Should I Read the Real Love Book? (Video Clip)

Reading the Real Love books won’t make you feel loved, but it will answer so many of your questions about life.

Boredom and Apathy

A man wrote: “You once described boredom to me as 'emptiness without a purpose,' which meant nothing to me at the time but does now. I haven't felt bored for a long, long time.” In the absence of sufficient Real Love, we fill our emptiness…

No Such Things as Germs

Prior to the mid-1800s people routinely died from infections at a rate that today we can scarcely imagine. Infections contributed to a life expectancy of about 40 years in 1800, compared to roughly 78 now in developed countries. In the United…

Real Love Makes All the Difference

Having difficulty with your marriage or child? Never, never give up until you’ve tried the one thing—Real Love—that makes all the difference.

The Flavor of Real Love

The flavor of Real Love is so sweet and fulfilling that the taste of selfishness becomes disgusting and unthinkable.

Who's Your Friend?

Who’s your friend? Put your dog and your spouse in the trunk of your car for an hour. When you open the trunk, which one is happy to see you?

Love is the Power (Video Clip)

Real Love is powerful despite the flaws of those of us who teach it.