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Don't Avoid Suffering

Do you need help turning suffering into strength and joy? Click here for a list of Certified Real Love Coaches and Wise Men who are eager to help you start living the joyful life YOU deserve. "Without Real Love I'd be a hot ball of mess…
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Loving With Confidence

James called to tell me that two days before his six-year-old daughter, Sareah, had been playing outside and gotten a large splinter embedded in her finger. She wouldn't allow them to touch it, screaming bloody murder if they made any attempt…

Never Rub Your Eye

In the twenty years I was an eye surgeon, I saw a great many objects embedded in the cornea of the eye, which is the clear layer through which you can see the world, and through which others can see your iris, or the colored part of the eye—the…
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Pain

Heal your pain from the past and move forward with the joyful life you deserve by reading Real Love and Post-Childhood Stress Disorder. "Dr. Greg Baer gave me what I’d been missing in 25 years as a therapist. He explained the powerful and…

Hold the Sky

I have a dear friend, Eileen, who tutors young children in a number of school subjects. She teaches a boy, Jonathan, who is presently getting chemotherapy for some kind of cancer. She asked him what it’s like when he’s getting the chemo. “It’s…
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Everyone Around Us Is In Pain, and So Are We (Video Clip)

All unhappy behavior becomes understandable when we understand that we’re responding to pain. https://youtu.be/RgNLylA3_fM
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Why Are We In Pain? It’s Not Complicated. (Video Clip)

We and the therapists who try to help us come up with complicated theories about our wounds, and we have so many names for them. It’s simpler than that. https://youtu.be/FWsANQZzmqI

Hold the Sky

I have a dear friend, Eileen, who tutors young children in a number of school subjects. She teaches a boy, Jonathan, who is presently getting chemotherapy for some kind of cancer. She asked him what it’s like when he’s getting the chemo. “It’s…

Using and Losing Our Gifts

Imagine that I tell you that a million dollars in gold coins is shallowly buried in a spot less than a mile from here, and I’m about to tell you exactly where it is. If you dig it up, it’s yours—a gift. But I will give you the directions…

Pain, Shame, and Hopelessness

Carrie was raised by a mother, Doreen, who was very unhappy as a result of her own childhood, which was dominated by her parents’ alcohol abuse, anger, and screaming. It should be no surprise that Doreen similarly abused Carrie with unpredictable…
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Real Confidence

Listen to these inspiring stories of a cop, a convict, a lawyer, a mother, a teacher, and many others who overcame fear, defeat, and pain, and transformed their lives with the power of Real Love. “This book has given me hope. If all these…

Comfort Coma

Comfortable. What a great word. It evokes images of sitting in an easy chair, warm, dry, fed, and without any discomfort. For most people, it’s actually the highest goal of life. Given the choice, who would choose discomfort over comfort? So…

Real Love Is Disturbing

Lori’s entire life had been punctuated by—no, dominated by—pain, fear, confusion, and anger. I spent a couple of days with her, and during that time she experienced, in her words, “More peace and calm than I’ve ever known, more than…
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The Hole

As Mark sat in front of me, he told me that his family had been “normal. You know,” he said, “loving and stuff.” I asked him to describe his earliest memories. “Do you remember when you were, say, four years old?” Nothing. “Eight?”…
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How to Release Pain

“How do I let go of the pain?” I get asked this question a lot. We tend to carry around great bags of pain behind us, or we’re simply buried under it—pain inflicted during childhood, regret for decisions we’ve made, guilt about what…
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The Lifeboat

Tara sat on the other end of our Skype call with tears running down her face. She was dealing with the pain of her childhood, an imminent divorce, and more. “I want the pain to stop,” she sobbed. “You really can heal,” I said. “You…

Betrayal

When I met Elizabeth, she appeared to have been dragged on a chain behind a truck on a gravel country road. She looked beaten up and intolerably exhausted. Questions revealed that she’d been married twice before, and she was about to marry…