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Open-Minded vs. Self-Conscious

Sarah called and said, "I just don't know what to do with my mother." "In what way?" I asked. "When I tell her anything about myself, or what I'm doing, she comments on it, and makes suggestions, and every single time she misunderstands…
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Real Love Retreat Nov 9-10

Come transform your life at the November 9-10 Real Love Weekend Retreat here. What Weekend Retreat participants are saying: Greg and the Real Love retreat has changed my life in such fundamental ways, it will never be the same...I will…
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Lost in the Woods of Words

Cynthia called to describe a problem and to ask for advice. For the purpose of teaching her a principle, I used a stopwatch to time her call (not something I ordinarily do). When she had finished, I said, "You just described a single confusing…
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What Does Real Love Look Like?

As a principle alone, Real Love is transformational. As I have taught the definition and nature of Real Love to people all around the world, I have been impressed with how they have lit up with understanding. As they have realized the role of…

Exceeding Our Brief

Robert was dressing for a meeting where he would be speaking, and casually he turned to his wife, Julie, and asked, “Does this tie work?” She replied, “I like the red, striped one better. Here, let me help you put it on.” Later,…
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Are You Listening?

Learn how to truly listen to and love the people you care about by practicing on a Free Real Love Conference Call here:

Changing the Subject

Heather was talking to her husband, Adam, and said, “I feel like we don’t do anything together.” “But I do lots of stuff with you,” Adam said, and he began to name some activities they had shared in recent days and weeks. I…

Change the Assignment

“I wanna scream,” Velora said. “Because . . .?” I asked. “For the past three years, I’ve asked my husband to take the garbage out of the house on his way to work, but nothing’s working. He’s promised and promised, but he…
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Listening With Your Mouth

Recently I watched Barbara interact with a number of people, and toward the end of the day she turned to me and said, "I'd like to be a Real Love coach. What do you think?" "Perhaps," I said, "you could do that someday." "Why do you say, someday?" "I'm…
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Real Listening Will Banish Fear

Sharon called me and said, "All Justin can talk about is work and money: this deal, that deal, making money, losing money. It never stops." "And then you're supposed to respond to each of the issues he brings up, right?" I asked. "Yes.…
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Playing The Organ

From childhood I've played the piano, and when I was twelve, the church we attended asked if I could play their organ for the Sunday services. I said, "Sure," and then I scrambled to teach myself how to play this instrument I had no experience…
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Changing the Subject

Heather was talking to her husband, Adam, and said, “I feel like we don’t do anything together.” “But I do lots of stuff with you,” Adam said, and he began to name some activities they had shared in recent days and weeks. I was…

Be Aware When You Speak

For decades I have been watching people interact with each other. In the past twenty-five years especially, I have paid close attention, and my observations are not entirely complimentary of us humans. Without meaning to, we are constantly sharing…

Complete Disregard

Most people listen like they drive—with a complete disregard for anyone but themselves.

Why Do We Listen So Poorly?

On the whole, we listen very poorly. Instead of listening to what other people are really saying: We defend ourselves. We wait for an opening—a pause—so we can say what’s on our own mind. We think of witty responses. We attack people…

Just ASK

Every day I talk to couples where neither person is really aware of what their partner is thinking or feeling. I ask him how he’s doing, and he says, “Okay, I guess.” When I ask him how SHE is doing, the answer is the same. But when I…
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The Nail

On YouTube, the following video was posted: We see the lower righter quarter of her face as she is talking. “It’s just there,” she said. “There's all this pressure, you know? And sometimes it feels like it's right up on me, and I…

The Power of Listening

As you genuinely listen to people and care about them, you can change their world. How powerful and satisfying that is.
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Listening

A wise man once said . . . as little as possible. It’s in listening that we find wisdom.