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The Lure of Imitation Love

Glow Worms

Very deep in the bowels of a few caves in the world live tiny worms, which never see even the slightest ray of light from the sun. Clinging to the cave ceilings, they manufacture slender strands of silk, punctuated by globules of mucous. Pulled…

How Praise Traps Us (Video Clip)

Praise traps us and can actually kill our ability to know and express ourselves. https://youtu.be/2IKGjFZFmYY
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Genuine Happiness

Discover the difference between Imitation Love (that traps you and only leads to misery) and Real Love (that leads to the genuine happiness you've always wanted) by reading or listening to Real Love. "He rocked my foundation! Greg Baer…
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Lying

Discover the freedom and joy of living a life filled with Real Love. Start here by reading or listening to Real Love. "I really can't say enough about this book. It's simply a MUST READ!" Ryan L.
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Fatal Distractions

"It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God." (Matthew 19:24) Often the distractions of Imitation Love—the “riches” of the world—are truly fatal. Don't be fooled by…
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Alone

Learn what Imitation Love is and how you can replace it with Real Love here.    
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Manipulating People for Attention (Video Clip)

Sometimes in Real Love settings, we manipulate people for Imitation Love instead of allowing the Real Love we need. https://youtu.be/7M1Bi6kMHvY

Love and Like

The word “love” has a great many meanings, and for that reason—among others—it can be a source of enormous confusion. We say, for example, that we love our children, our lover, our spouse, and our friends. But we also say that we love…
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A Stack of Blocks

Cynthia was complaining to me that she had girlfriends who were having “all the fun” in life. “What kind of fun?” I asked. “They have boyfriends all the time, and they talk about having sex, going dancing and drinking, stuff…

Are You Lazy?

Laziness is more than a description of a condition, where people demonstrate a tendency toward inactivity, and where they dislike physical or mental exertion. Laziness is also used as a weapon and as an excuse: 1. We like to point to…

Sucking Air

Roman Coombes sent me the following metaphor, which I have modified without his permission. Take two drinking straws. One is your Imitation Love conduit, and the other is for Real Love. Put some water in a glass. Place the Imitation Love…
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A Child’s View

Watch a 4- and 7-year old who have been taught the difference between Real Love and Imitation Love by their father.  
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One Tiny Pin

My son Rob is a mechanical engineer who designs parts for the aerospace industry. He once showed me a steel pin, a cylinder whose length was 3/4 of an inch, with a diameter of 1/16 of an inch. He asked me to estimate what this pin cost at a…
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The Monster Jealousy

Every day I hear from someone who is envious of the accomplishments of another person, or of the attention or praise or whatever other people receive. Jealousy is a real monster that can steal our happiness like a plague. Read more about this…

Hang Gliders

Driving along a road in the western United States, I looked up to discover a “flock” of hang gliders. As I enjoyed the vicarious sense of flight, I noticed that one of them was moving in a much straighter line. Finally I realized it was…
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Listening?

We are so busy being right, defending ourselves, and getting attention that we scarcely have any time or attention for genuinely listening to each other.

The Trap

Praise, power, and pleasure really do feel good, and THAT is the trap, because we get confused between feeling good and feeling genuinely happy.

Empty Praise

People often compliment us for how we make THEM feel—with our looks, our behavior, and more. As we pursue that empty praise, we become addicted to it.

Love?

Almost never do people fall in love. Rather, they fall into a condition of matching wounds.

Genuine Happiness

No matter how carefully you shape horse poop into loaves, they will not become bread, much as we cannot gather any amount of praise, power, and pleasure to create genuine happiness.
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Lying

In a world fueled by Imitation Love, lying is NECESSARY for the smooth interaction of all. But when people feel unconditionally loved, the need for lying simply evaporates.