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I'm Shivering on Mt. Everest

A couple called me and described their family. The two of them often bitterly quarreled. The children were in various kinds of trouble at school and otherwise. Not infrequently, the father hit his children and his wife. This was a family in…
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Lost in the Jungle

I once lived in the islands of Samoa, isolated in the vast stretches of the South Pacific, five hundreds miles from the nearest neighbor. One day I climbed the dirt road up a mountain, and looking for a bit of adventure, I walked into the jungle…
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Here Come the Monsters

Elaine called me one morning and said, “I woke up afraid.” Before she could continue, I said, “And here come the monsters.” “What do you mean by that?” “When you get afraid, Elaine, your mind starts spinning at a hundred…
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Chewing Gravel

Brenda vigorously expressed a desire to find Real Love and happiness. It’s a start. Brenda liked to do things her way, however, so her progress was punctuated by many bumps in the road. One day she called to describe an interaction she’d…
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Anxious for Peace

The zen master, Adyashanti, tells of a man who runs up to a wise man and asks him—while jogging in place—“Where do I run, to find rest? Quick, tell me.” The wise man says, “If you just stop for a moment, you will find rest. Rest…
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Clinging Like a Baby Monkey

I saw a middle-aged man who was anxious and depressed, and was having considerable conflict and disappointments in his marriage and at work. The more loved he felt, the more astonished he became at how long he had lived without that life-giving…
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We Can’t Skip the Steps

All his life Paul had been criticized, pressured, manipulated, and neglected by his parents. When asked, however, he said that his family had been “wonderfully loving,” because it was all he knew, and he didn’t want to commit the crime…

Love the Way We Want

Often love is accompanied by the enormous inconvenience of being delivered in the way we need, not the way we want.
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The Buried Diamond

I talked to Bradley at length. Distracted by fear and confusion, his sense of worth was very low. “You’re like a diamond buried deep in the ground,” I said. “In its present location, it’s fairly useless. It doesn’t fertilize the…
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The Papaya Mystery

I once lived for two years in Samoa, nearly four hundred miles from the next major island group in the South Pacific. At the time, conditions were fairly primitive, with only a few miles of paved roads, no toilets to speak of, and everyone in…
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Things To Do When You Just Can’t Quite Find Happiness

Being unconditionally loved in person is a powerful experience. It can change your life. But sometimes unconditionally loving people are not readily available, and we’re left wondering what to do with our time. If we do nothing, or if we fall…
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What is the Real Cause of all the Pain in the World? (Video Clip)

We frenetically chase an endless list of problems—violence, drugs, the misbehavior of children and adults—while failing to address the real cause of all of them. https://youtu.be/m3gjALkJVTM
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Any Form of Pain Reduction Keeps Us in Pain (Video Clip)

In order to eliminate our pain—and to discover who we are—we must stop treating the pain with addictive behaviors and address the real cause of the pain. https://youtu.be/B8jOR0d6UkU
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The Path to Loving

The path to loving is steady and guided by immutable laws. The way to irresponsibility and insanity, on the other hand, has many internal shortcuts and is easy to find.
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The Cost/Benefit of Real Love

Recently I received the following letter, which requires no comment from me: "I've seen a few people retreat and even run away completely from real love recently. “It's like they haven't been able to face the prospect of experiencing…
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Our Need for Love is Essential (Video Clip)

If our need for love is not sufficiently satisfied, our pain becomes unbearable, and we react to it all day. We react, rather than choose our behaviors. https://youtu.be/EDgtWKlz4pA
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Beginning the Rut

When I first met Grant, he was depressed and had little relationship with his wife and adult children. I loved him and helped him see how his critical and demeaning view of himself and others had come from long ago, when he was a child. Grant…
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Gravity Never Sleeps

The other day I was mulching the ground under some Japanese maples in the backyard. Thirty years ago I’d planted them in some elevated mounds of dirt that I had hauled there and surrounded with rock walls. Not far from each tree trunk…
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Once You’ve Seen the Bait . . .

I saw a woman, Karen, in my office who was very afraid of nearly everything in life, and whose response to fear was to please everyone. She didn’t know who she was and had no discernible personality. Karen began to describe her partner…
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Divine Source of Love

The love of other human beings is but an introduction to the infinite and divine source of love available to all of us.