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Stealing Love

Stealing Love

Margaret arrived at my home with her husband, Blake. Over the course of their twelve years together, she had emotionally shared herself in inappropriate ways—frequent texting, sharing of deep feelings, phone calls, furtive hugs and kisses,…
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Need, Want, and Hope

Joann called me to talk about how she had tried to use Real Love to help her adult son, Max, who was lost, wandering, and miserable. “I really WANT to help him,” she said. “Listen to yourself carefully. Listen to the tone with which…

Living in the Now

When I was about thirteen I worked at a summer camp where all the kids had Down’s Syndrome. Prior to that, I’d had no experience with this disorder, so I was fascinated as I interacted with them. The majority of Down’s kids are in the…

A Guarantee

If all the men you’re meeting are incapable of a meaningful relationship, it’s a guarantee that you’re not either.

Love and Hate

In the book, The Scarlet Letter, Nathaniel Hawthorne stated, “It is a curious subject of observation and inquiry, whether hatred and love be not the same thing at bottom.” Hawthorne had the insight to pose an important question but not…

Success in Finding Love

Success in finding love is achieved by those who tell the truth boldly and trust profoundly.

The Origin of Real Love

I've been asked many times how Real Love began. How did I think of it? What books did I read? Who were my teachers? For forty years of my life I created success by relying on my intellectual and emotional skills. If I wanted "more," I just…

Finding Real Love

As people learn the principles of Real Love, they almost uniformly ask how they can find and feel the real thing. They want to feel the actual power of Real Love, which is far more fulfilling than simply learning principles. It's the FEELING…

There's No Single Recipe for Life

When I was a kid, nobody talked much about cooking. You just boiled, baked, fried, or peeled it, and then you ate it. But then Julia Child and others made cooking look fun, and a profusion of books and articles followed, along with an occasional…

Why Isn't Real Love Everywhere?

Someone wrote to me, "If Real Love is so essential, then why doesn't it just occur naturally everywhere? And why has it taken this long for Real Love to be discovered? And why is it difficult to learn?" Just because something is good--or…

Half a Bridge—and Finding Love

Years ago I drove by a bridge that had been built halfway across a river, and I asked a resident of the area for an explanation. He said that the bridge had been abandoned by the county for lack of constructions funds. Despite the investment…