Do You Want A Dictatorship Or A Relationship? - Real Love Blog
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A Dictatorship or a Relationship?

The following blog was written by Jonathan Baer. Recently, as I spoke with a couple, Sarah said that her husband, Todd, was not helping her with the recycling. "I AM helping," Todd said. "She just doesn't like the way I do it." They…
Three-Inch River Rocks - Real Love Blog
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Three-Inch River Rocks

Several days ago a woman angrily complained to me about some behaviors of her husband that were irresponsible and lazy. After listening for a minute, I said, "Now that you have the load in your yard, it's a little late to complain about it." She…
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Why Partnerships Fail

We find partners in the hope that they will heal our wounds and make us happy. But they are not equipped to do that, and when we discover this—which we refused to see from the beginning—our partnerships fail. Learn how to have the unconditionally…
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True Listening

True listening means focusing entirely on the other person—their words, their fears, their needs. Learn how to listen to and unconditionally love others by reading Real Love for Wise Men and Women.
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Time Means Nothing

We talk about the importance of time in “getting to know” people. But time means nothing. It’s only with trust and honesty that we really become intimately connected. Learn how to have fulfilling relationships by listening to "The Truth…
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Why Do We Marry Our Parents?

Recently I spoke with Mark, who described his mother in rather unflattering terms: critical, controlling, nagging, ungrateful. After a couple of minutes I said, "It sounds like you don't enjoy being around your mother much." "No, I really…
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The Truth and Love

Although passion can certainly light the fire of a relationship, only the truth and love can sustain it. Learn how to sustain your relationship with the truth and love here:
Why Men And Women Cheat - Real Love Blog
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Why Men and Women Cheat

Not long ago–on separate occasions and within a two-week period–I met two women, Lisa and Janine. Their stories were strikingly similar. Each of their husbands had cheated on them. They were devastated at the betrayal of this infidelity.…
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Sixteen Ways To Say "I Love You"

Although most of us thirst to hear the words I love you, they can also be unsettling—even frightening—because in the past these words have been associated with experiences that were not entirely pleasant. It’s very common for people to…

Love You

You can’t make anyone genuinely love you, but you can certainly kill yourself trying. Learn how to have successful relationships by reading or listening to Real Love in Dating.
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Conflict and a Great Relationship

It’s not the absence of conflict that indicates a great relationship but the ability to prevent and resolve conflict with love. Read this book and learn how to prevent and resolve conflict with love.
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Dating and The Broken Leg

The other day I got a call from a woman, Shelley, who described her relationship with a man she was living with, a man who alternated between being emotionally abusive and emotionally cold and withdrawn. She responded with all the Getting and…
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Fool's Gold

When I was a child, we lived not far from an open-pit copper mine. To me it was a huge playground of winding roads as wide as football fields, layers of brightly-colored minerals, enormous machinery, and a hole as big as the Grand Canyon. But…
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Somebody in Love

Trying to talk sense to somebody in love is like talking to a drunk. They listen to nothing that won't fill their bottle. When they are ready to listen, have them read or listen to Real Love in Dating.

Picking out Loppers

Sylvia called and said, "I'm so confused about relationships. I feel stupid." "You probably are stupid about relationships," I said. "Almost everyone is, but that's not a problem, IF you're willing to see it and change it. You can fix stupid.…

The Partner Who Won't Make a Commitment

If you’re in a relationship where you desire a commitment, but your partner is resistant, what can you do? In every relationship or situation, we have three choices: Live with it and like it Live with it and hate it Leave it I’ve…