We Cling to the Justifications of Our Anger

We cling to the justifications of our anger with a desperate stubbornness, because otherwise we’d have to deal with the overwhelming pain that underlies it. Break the cycles of expectation and disappointment that make your life so hard.…
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Anger Never Works As Well As Loving

What's Really Happening When Anger Seems to Work Last week I posted a blog about establishing a personal zero tolerance for anger. Click here to read that blog. I should have anticipated—but did not—a question that would naturally follow…
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Zero Tolerance for Anger Is Easier than Minimum Tolerance

We Rarely Learn Zero Tolerance for Anger Growing Up Like many of us, Maureen was raised in a home where anger was expressed with such regularity that it was accepted as normal. Because of what Maureen learned at home, she used anger a lot…
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When We Feel Loved

When we feel loved, we can work out anything in a relationship. When we don't feel loved, we can't really work out anything to our lasting satisfaction. By feel loved I mean remember that you're loved. As we tell the truth about ourselves,…
The Spiral of Disability

The Spiral of Disability

Last year I saw Blaine, a man of considerable intellect and energy. He was CEO of a corporation and master of a relatively large domain. But he knew absolutely nothing about feeling or giving Real Love, so he felt empty and alone. One of many…
A Time-Out for You

A Time-Out for You

A few days ago I was talking to my son Mike on the phone, and he described an interaction with his two children, Sydney, six years old, and Jack, four. In the next room, Mike heard Sydney steadily elevating the tone and volume of her voice as…

Stopping Evil

The other day I received the following letter: "Recently I read the following quotation: 'All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.' (Edmund Burke) The same evening my wife and I were eating in a restaurant,…
Anger is Destructive

Anger is Destructive

Anger is one of the most divisive and destructive forces in relationships. We need to better understand the cause and nature of anger and thereby gain the ability to eliminate it. Fortunately, in recent years we have acquired an understanding…

Less Angry is Not Enough

Less angry is not enough—though unavoidable in the process of learning to be loving. Only NO anger is acceptable. Learn all about your anger and how to stop it here.

Anger is Always Wrong (Video Clip)

There are no exceptions to this rule. Living by it will transform your life. Are you having trouble giving up your anger? Schedule an intervention and experience life without anger - ever.
The Wounds of Disappointment

The Wounds of Disappointment or Irritation

Every single moment of disappointment or irritation from a parent is received by the child as “I don’t love you,” like a knife wound. Really. Is it any wonder, then, that almost all adults walk around bleeding and afraid? And they don’t…

There Are No Expectations in Unconditional Love (Video Clip)

When our expectations aren't met, our usual response is anger, irritation, disappointment - you get the picture. Watch this video clip and learn how to change your perspective and live a peaceful, loving life. Then share it with a loved one…

Remove the Obstacles–Now

Throughout our backyard forest are shallow ditches that allow rainwater to drain downhill to the creek. Without them, the backyard would become a marsh, punctuated by puddles and small ponds. The many trees drop a great number of leaves all…

Processing Emotions (Video Clip)

We need a Wise Person to help us understand and process our strongest emotions. You can understand and change your life with the help of coaching or an intervention.
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Faith and Courage May Be Required in Practicing Real Love

Sometimes practicing Real Love requires faith and courage. Watch this video to see what loving looks like. Then share this and your love with someone.
Where True Youth Resides - Real Love Blog - Greg Baer

Where True Youth Resides

Learn how to free yourself from the guilt, fear, and anger that have been weighing you down and start living the joyful life you deserve NOW by reading or listening to Real Love. "He rocked my foundation! Greg Baer touched me deeply. He's…
Anger: The Effect Our Anger Has on Other People

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Frank and Paula came to see me, and I asked them to describe a single example of a conflict between them. Paula said to Frank, "Yesterday when I was late leaving the house, you were really angry at me, and I didn't like it." "I was not,"…

The Intimate Relationship between Freedom and Anger

Almost everyone I speak to about their life describes their anger to some extent: Anger at a spouse Anger at children Anger at a boss or co-worker Anger at the many injustices of everyday life: traffic, illness, neighbors, and more. I…

Just Don’t Go

On October 19, 2017 white nationalist Richard Spencer delivered a speech at the University of Florida, amidst a state-declared condition of emergency and screaming voices of fear, hate, protest, counter-hate, and counter-protest. Security on…

You Keep Yourself Worthless

When a parent frowns at a child, she hears this: "When you don't do what I want—when you are not the person I want you to be—I become disappointed and irritated. I love you only when you meet my needs and don't inconvenience or frighten…