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The More You Nag People, the Less They Listen

Read or listen to Real Love in Marriage and learn how to nag less and love more.
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Pushing the Boulder

I talked to a woman, Ilene, who was utterly overwhelmed with the responsibility of controlling her children, bossing her husband around, and worrying about everything. "You look exhausted, honey," I said. "I'm worn out." "Like you're…
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The Frowny Face Button

My eight-year-old granddaughter, Megan, is an irrepressible fountain of energy and intelligence, often expressed with a need to challenge everything. It's actually a delightful combination of traits, but on occasion some people do find her endless…
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Sharp Edges

I once saw a photo of a sign that read, in big capital letters, "Caution: This Sign Has Sharp Edges. Do Not Touch the Edges of this Sign." Below these large letters was a sentence written in much smaller letters: "Also the Bridge is Out Ahead."…
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Loving Your Kids Now

You made a lot of mistakes with your children. Now let go of the disasters, lose the guilt, and don't try to make up for them. Just start loving your kids now, and—if they’re young enough or willing—teach them occasionally. Learn how…
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Love Gives Us Voice

I once talked to a teenaged girl who had been emotionally neglected by her father and physically abandoned by her mother. She felt so discarded and alone that she had no sense at all of her worth. In her eyes, her facial expression, and her…
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A Demonstration Of Real Faith

Nyla had been raised by parents who "loved her" conditionally. They convinced her that their conditional praise, acceptance, and kindness were truly love. When I first described to her what Real Love looked like, her reaction was far from positive.…
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Loving With Confidence

James called to tell me that two days before his six-year-old daughter, Sareah, had been playing outside and gotten a large splinter embedded in her finger. She wouldn't allow them to touch it, screaming bloody murder if they made any attempt…
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Telling Your Child The Truth

A father wrote to me: "I have not known how to connect with my teenage daughter, Jennifer, so I finally decided to do what you suggested long ago. I sat with her and actually listened to her. I began by asking how she liked school, and…
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"I'm So Fat!"

Corinne said to me, "I'm disgusted with my life." "Really?" I said. "Name a specific thing you're disgusted about." "I'm so fat!" "So rather than argue about whether you really are fat—which is debatable—let's just accept what you…
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Quiet Kids?

Learn 9 simple and powerfully effective principles to help you become the loving parent you've always wanted to be by reading or listening to Real Love in Parenting. "I did not know how to help my children. But now I do. Real Love in Parenting…
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You Are Not Listening

Gary and Marlene told me that their son, Jack, was rebellious toward them, constantly caused problems in school, and frequently hit his siblings. The parents talked nonstop, frequently interrupting or talking over each other. "The kid is…
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The Surprising Ways We Train Our Children

Susanne called me and described how angry her two teenage boys were. They fought her constantly, used abusive language toward her, and turned every meal into a brawl. She, her husband, and her sons were all quite miserable. When she asked…
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Why Do I Sometimes Act So Badly?

Christine called, and I could almost feel her shaking her head. "I just do not understand," she said, "why I treat James so badly sometimes. Everything is fine for a while, and then I blow up at him. Later, when I look back, what he did to provoke…
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You Are So Mean

Stephanie called me to say that her 14-year-old daughter, Lee Ann, was out of control: angry, sexually promiscuous, having problems in school, and more. Questions revealed that Stephanie had felt unloved all her life, and she had reacted to…
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I’ll Do Anything . . . Except That

(blog written by Jonathan Baer) A couple came to talk to me. "I just don't think I can do this anymore." Pam said. "Bryce never wants to have anything to do with me or the girls. He'd be just fine if we never bothered him and he watched…
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A Parent

Find someone who can love you unconditionally and show you what a true parent is, by visiting our Loving People To Talk To page here:
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The Real Education

I talked to a man whose teenage son was obviously on a path that would lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. The father tried to talk to his son, but the boy refused to listen, finally climbing out the window of the bedroom where they were talking.…
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Being A Parent

With Real Love in Parenting, you can learn how to be the parent you've always wanted to be. "I was at my wits' end. I did not know how to help my children. But now I do. Real Love in Parenting has given me everything I was missing as a p…
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One Example Of Healing–Elena

Markus and Charlene called to tell me about their daughter, Elena, age twenty. Elena had already been in therapy for eleven years, with quite a variety of diagnoses: depression, bipolar disorder, oppositional defiant disorder, attention deficit…
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Fix The Foundation

Heal the wounds of your past and let Real Love transform your life into the happy, fulfilling life you've always wanted by reading Real Love and PCSD (Post-Childhood Stress Disorder) here: