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The Ox and the Butterfly

Kirsten and James were living together, planning to get married, and also running a joint business. They spent a lot of time together, which tended to highlight their differences. James is a tightly organized man, who can schedule his day in…
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Find Ourselves?

Rarely is it fruitful to “find ourselves,” as though it were a search. If we gradually eliminate our self-delusions, however—especially our fears—what remains is who we really are.
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The Loud Voices

When I met Andrea, she was deep in a pit of unhappiness: alone, feeling worthless, unhappy in her marriage, and short-tempered and frustrated as a mother. I taught her how to find and share Real Love, and gradually she rose from the pit. She…
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A True Father

A true father—one who loves, guides, and protects—is one of the great miracles of the universe.
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Believing the Lie

Most of us have no idea who we really are, believing instead the lie that we are the sum of our reactions to pain.
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Shoveling Manure

My father grew up on a farm that raised a variety of plants and animals, dairy cows among them. It was his job to shovel manure out of the barn, a job which apparently never ended and was never pleasant. When he shoveled his way to the end of…
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It’s Not Your Fault

George hung his head as he told me about his life: he was abandoned as a child, raised by an aunt, taught nothing of social skills, became an accomplished and fairly wealthy professional, married an angry and controlling woman, endured a nightmare…
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Eternal Perspective

All fear melts with a touch of eternal perspective.
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The Ditches Come First

Imagine that you’ve built a house. It’s a nice house: plenty of room, nice furnishings, attractive landscaping, and more. After all that work, you want a drink of water and a shower. But you discover that the faucet in the sink produces…
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On Fire?

Just because the entire world is on fire and screaming, does not mean we have to set our own hair on fire.
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We're All Stupid

We're all stupid. Some of us fight it, some deny it, and others just learn from it and become less stupid.

Courage

No courage is required to be struck down by misfortune, but great courage is required to get back up again and continue moving forward.
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I Have a Complaint

For many years I have periodically offered assistance to a woman in my hometown who would otherwise be unable to completely care for herself. She suffers from bipolar disorder, morbid obesity, chronic arthritis of her knees, and a general sense…