The Five Laws of Marriage

Partnership can be one of the most fulfilling experiences of life. Such an achievement requires diligent awareness of what builds and what detracts from partnership. We learn to love and to be better partners over a lifetime, and there are a…
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Pull a Rope or a Plow?

Susan came to me and said, “I know people who have been in Real Love for about as long as I have—about a year—but they seem to be having a pretty easy time of it. They’re really moving along. I’m not. Something must be wrong with me.” “Oh,…
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Spock and Sarek

On uncounted occasions, people have asked me what would be the wisest choice to make in a difficult circumstance. Sometimes I do offer advice, and it’s common for people to respond, “I don’t know if that would be a good idea.” And then…
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Take the Easy Way

I couldn’t possibly count the number of times that people have begun to learn the principles of Real Love and then said to me, “This is so hard.” On the contrary, unconditional love is far easier than every other approach to life,…
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Never Give Up on Loving Your Children (Video Clip)

Children can be manipulative, difficult, withdrawn, angry, and resentful as you learn to love them. Despite the difficulties, never stop loving them. https://youtu.be/gnN5kz2d3T0
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Learning from Silence

Miranda was raised in a nightmare of anger, criticism, and fear. Everyone thus wounded responds in a variety of ways to protect themselves, and Miranda’s favorite tool was controlling. She called me and said, “The more I learn about Real…
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A Glitch in the Software

I once ordered a new version of a word processing program. After downloading it, I kept experiencing inexplicable malfunctions: words disappeared, fonts changed, and sometimes the entire program froze. This was not compatible with the work…
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The Path Well Trodden

On many occasions I have wandered through dense woods, both on foot and while riding an ATV (All Terrain Vehicle). It doesn’t take long to notice that the more a path is traveled, the bigger it becomes, and the easier it is so see. When…
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The Price of Not Teaching Your Children Responsibility (Video Clip)

Teaching a child to be responsible—how to work reliably, consistently, and cheerfully—can be difficult, but the alternative is very expensive and painful. https://youtu.be/mTGC0nNB7fI
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Cholera

Over the history of the world, uncounted millions of people have died of cholera, a bacterial infection characterized by severe diarrhea, vomiting, and serious dehydration that often leads to electrolyte imbalance, muscle cramps, shock, and…
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Willing

As I was doing some Internet research on submarines—for some reason now lost to me—I came across an account of a Navy submarine officer who described a great deal about life aboard a submarine. Among his descriptions was his experience with…
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Can It Ever Be Wrong to be Kind?

I received the following question: “My mother-in-law is famous for doing things for everybody. If a baby is born, she makes a blanket; somebody is sick, she takes dinner; that kind of thing. But when she does things for us, something just…