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Put Loving Before Thinking

Loving and thinking are both necessary. The results will be far more profitable—for us and for others if we consistently put loving before thinking. Fill your mind with loving, grateful and generous thoughts so that you will be ready…
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I'm Shivering on Mt. Everest

A couple called me and described their family. The two of them often bitterly quarreled. The children were in various kinds of trouble at school and otherwise. Not infrequently, the father hit his children and his wife. This was a family in…
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Zero Tolerance for Anger Is Easier than Minimum Tolerance

We Rarely Learn Zero Tolerance for Anger Growing Up Like many of us, Maureen was raised in a home where anger was expressed with such regularity that it was accepted as normal. Because of what Maureen learned at home, she used anger a lot…
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Loving Other People More Than Ourselves

On many occasions I’ve heard people propose the idea that we should love other people more than ourselves. On the surface, this sounds like a potentially attractive idea. When people hear it, they almost uniformly nod their heads in deep…
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Unloving Moments

A coach suggested that we collect some of the UNloving things that people say, especially the ones that the speaker would not recognize as unloving. "I hate you" is universally recognized as unloving, but we have so many subtle—and therefore…
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Truth and Love

What you want most is Real Love. But before you can believe that people actively care about your happiness, you need to know that they accept you. You can't know that people accept you as you really are unless you know that they see who you…
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We Live in a Zoo

Not long ago I was privileged to host Sheri for an intervention. For weeks afterward, she said that feeling unconditionally loved during our time together had changed the way she saw everything: herself, other people, and more. One day she called…
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A Definition of Love

A Definition of Love It's Real Love when I care about your happiness without wanting anything from you in return. It's Real Love when you care about my happiness without wanting anything from me. This is a very important definition of…
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Sharing Real Love–an Example

Recently I received the following letter from a woman: "Several months ago I began to read Real Love books, as many as I could find. I was stunned that such a revolutionary view of life could have been hidden from me all my life. I realized…
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Our Ultimate Goal is to Love Fully and Deeply

Our ultimate goal is to love as fully and deeply as possible all the people within our sphere of influence—not because we should, but because it is the irresistible expression of who we are. Listen to Real Love, the truth about unconditional…
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Look for the Pain

People in Pain Almost every person alive is suffering from an unspoken and mostly unrealized pain that bubbles right under the surface. They hide it, but if anything difficult happens, they can no longer contain the pain. Then out it comes–often…
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When We Feel Loved

When we feel loved, we can work out anything in a relationship. When we don't feel loved, we can't really work out anything to our lasting satisfaction. By feel loved I mean remember that you're loved. As we tell the truth about ourselves,…
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Choose to Trust People

Choose to trust people and create the possibility that you will feel loved by them. Your pain will disappear—all because of your choice. Learn more about making wise choices by listening to Real Love.
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Stopping Evil

The other day I received the following letter: "Recently I read the following quotation: 'All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.' (Edmund Burke) The same evening my wife and I were eating in a restaurant,…

Frightened by the Pain of Others

Learn how to understand and accept your own pain so that you won't be afraid of it anymore. Lose the fear of your pain and be free to love. Listen to Real Love and Post Childhood Stress Disorder today.
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Tendency to Control People and Things

Get rid of your fears and you will not need to control people and things. Watch this video clip: https://youtu.be/NzCZoUw2Q6M Would you like to hear Greg's voice every single day?!? Become a member of RealLove.com and watch hundreds of…
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Making Decisions in the Right Order

Tom called and said, "I simply cannot live with Lynne [his wife] anymore." "Hardly a surprise," I said. "She's been creating an illusion of studying Real Love for several years now, and yet I've never seen her genuinely listen to anyone but…
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The Effort of Friendship

We have a strong tendency to choose as friends the people who are similar to us, or at least who feed our needs for particular forms of Imitation Love without too much manipulation on our part. In short, we choose people who are easy and comfortable…
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Pushing the Boulder

I talked to a woman, Ilene, who was utterly overwhelmed with the responsibility of controlling her children, bossing her husband around, and worrying about everything. "You look exhausted, honey," I said. "I'm worn out." "Like you're…
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You're Never Alone

Not sure that somebody loves you? Click here for a list of Certified Real Love Coaches and Wise Men eager to help you find the Real Love that will transform your life today. "Thank you, thank you, thank you. I was struggling last week with…
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Open-Minded vs. Self-Conscious

Sarah called and said, "I just don't know what to do with my mother." "In what way?" I asked. "When I tell her anything about myself, or what I'm doing, she comments on it, and makes suggestions, and every single time she misunderstands…