Entries by Greg Baer


Let’s Stick with NOW (Video Clip)

When dealing with people who are displaying signs of "victimhood", don't let them bring up the past. Only deal with how they are feeling NOW. Read Real Love and Freedom for the Soul and help a friend, loved one or yourself get out of the victim trap. Learn how to only deal with how they […]


We Cling to the Justifications of Our Anger

We cling to the justifications of our anger with a desperate stubbornness, because otherwise we’d have to deal with the overwhelming pain that underlies it. Break the cycles of expectation and disappointment that make your life so hard. Listen to Real Love, The truth about finding unconditional love & fulfilling relationships and learn how you […]


Gratitude Means Realizing We Have Enough

Gratitude means realizing that right now I have more of what really matters than ever before, no matter how difficult this moment might be. Transform your fear and confusion to peace, happiness, and gratitude by filling it with Real Love. You will then experience a new level of gratitude, realizing that you have enough. Learn […]


You Are Such an Idiot! (Finally)

How Real Love Transformed a Marriage Veronica called to share with me an interaction she'd had the night before with her husband, Dan. For years their relationship had been a series of unpleasant interactions distinguished by anger, victimhood, and withdrawal, but then they learned about Real Love and genuinely applied the principles. "Last night we […]


Solve the Problem

In a relationship, anything that consistently gets between you as an issue—money, sex, kids, whatever—is the thing that will end you. Solve the problem. Now. Solve the problem, get rid of those walls and enjoy a fulfilling relationship. Learn how by listening to Real Love and Marriage and doing the workbook, 40 Days to Real […]


Anger Never Works As Well As Loving

What's Really Happening When Anger Seems to Work Last week I posted a blog about establishing a personal zero tolerance for anger. Click here to read that blog. I should have anticipated—but did not—a question that would naturally follow what I said. One woman wrote: "I understand the disadvantages of anger, but how do you […]


Put Loving Before Thinking

Loving and thinking are both necessary. The results will be far more profitable—for us and for others if we consistently put loving before thinking. Fill your mind with loving, grateful and generous thoughts so that you will be ready to put loving before thinking. Listen to Real Love, The truth about finding unconditional love & […]


I’m Shivering on Mt. Everest

A couple called me and described their family. The two of them often bitterly quarreled. The children were in various kinds of trouble at school and otherwise. Not infrequently, the father hit his children and his wife. This was a family in considerable conflict, so I began to guide them through the steps they could […]


Loving Other People More Than Ourselves

On many occasions I’ve heard people propose the idea that we should love other people more than ourselves. On the surface, this sounds like a potentially attractive idea. When people hear it, they almost uniformly nod their heads in deep thought. On further examination, however, this profound insight proves to be the orphan of romance […]

I Wish I Could Be a Dog

"I just do not understand," Chuck said to me. "If there's something I want, her time, her help with a project, sex, whatever, Diane [his wife] is always too tired, too busy, or just not interested. But if you saw her around a stray dog, you would think she was the most loving person in […]


The Mountain Stream Allegory (Video Clip)

Become a conduit so that you can love others without getting drained. Fill your life with peace and happiness. Learn how love others AND practice what you learn. Listen to The Essentials of Real Love and do the accompanying workbook, The Essentials of Real Love Workbook. It will transform your relationships and your life.

Bring on the Bad Breath

A friend, Larry, and I were talking about how much people want Real Love in their lives. "I was talking to another friend one day," Larry said, "who told me how much he hated bad breath. He couldn't be in the same room with it. I said that I kind of liked it. My friend […]