seeing and loving my 8 year old nephew

Hi Sharr,
Thanks for this opportunity to Love & accept you.

At the end of the summer I will be with my family at the ocean for supposively a vacation with them.  Awesome opportunity to share Real Love with them & practice being Loving

One of my brothers has told me that there is enough room for me to join with his family and stay with them.   Loving on his part

He has an 8 year old son who is a needy child as far as attention.
Aren't all children, at this age? He's still lovable & acceptable

In the past, whenever our family is together, I miss out on the adult conversations and activities because Andrew will stick to me like glue.
He's making a choice to include you, that's a gift in & of itself.

 He will just talk my ear off excessively or follow me around to get me to listen to him.
What an opporturnity to gift him with the necessary Love & acceptance he is letting you know that he "needs"

 It seems like no matter who is around, this child will seek me out of everyone. 
You will SEE the gift in it, when your "need" for Love & acceptance is met. I SEE you clearly here and am offering you my Love & acceptance in this moment

In the past few years, he tells his parents that he wants me to himself.
Again, a choice on his part...Can you SEE the gift in this, yet?

 One family gathering we were all sitting around talking and connecting as a family.  Andrew stood in front of me blocking me from the conversations and just talked at me for what seemed like forever. 
I understand, If your bucket is empty you know how to get it filled. He doesn't have that. Can you SEE the opportunity to be Loving, here? It makes sense that "in the past" it was this way, you didn't have Real Love to offer him 'at that time' Things are different for you, today.
If you go there in fear, you will have this kind of result. If you go there absolutely loved & accepted, you will be able to experience a different result. Does that appeal to you?


When I leave these family gatherings, I am drained and angry because I missed another opportunity to connect with the rest of my family. 
Totally understandable. Loving & accepting you in this moment. You may discover for yourself that things can go differently IF you put action into what you have already learned

This July my father passed away and after the funeral we had a party to celebrate my dad's life.  Family and friends were all sitting out on my one of my brothers decks and we were all talking and telling stories about my dad.  One of my other brothers (Andrew's dad) came up to me and asked me to go out and play around the world with his son.  I said, Gary, we are all sitting around talking and telling stories about dad.  Gary said, we have been doing that all day.
Truth-telling would have helped you, here. You had the opportunity say, "I'm too empty & afraid" or "I don't have enough Love to offer him in the form of Unconditional Love & acceptance." Today, you do know how to remedy that-making a Real Love call!

  I think this is the first time I realized that it is also the parents who may possibly want me to give Andrew my undivided attention because it makes it easier for them. 
You're free to choose what you want to do at any given moment. Keep some numbers of people in Real Love handy. We will gift you with the necessary love & acceptance you will need in those moments

This creates a dilema for me for several reasons.  One being I think children need to be seen and heard and they are very important little people.  But I just don't have to give to Andrew what he is demanding and now his father is requesting of me. 
I hear ya & I SEE you clearly, here. YOU are still lovable & acceptable to me, especially in those moments when you don't feel loving. That's when Real Love counts! 

Another is, my brothers and their families and my mom are my family because I am a single woman without any children of my own. 
Duly-noted, you're still lovable, here. I accept you for WHO you are, not by your abilities. Do you get that? It's a ready supply available to you, freely.

While it can be challenging to be with them at times, they are the only family I have so I do not want to isolate myself from them because of problem. 
I hear ya, YOU have that choice

I want to make it work.  Families are important parts of our lives and an established way to connect to people. 
I hear ya. No one is making you detach from them at all. It only makes sense that you would "feel" this way. You are NOT ALONE, here. Many believe the same, too. Real Love is the missing ingredient here and you're the one who can introduce the principles to them by your changed perspective & understanding of their behaviors as well as your own, too. Are you willing to gift it to them?

Any suggestions on how I can see and love my nephew but also get in my adult time and relaxation?
Sure, GET LOVED b4 interacting with him. FEEL LOVED as you engage with him. MAKE A REAL LOVE CALL as soon as you 'leave a level of peacefulness' and enjoy the experience!with him!.
When I watched children, we watched the On-line Seminar together and Believe me, they felt the Love-we talked about for hours after. I taught them how to say, "Oopsies, my bad-I did it"
and they still use that, today. Heck, I still do, too!

 I am finding that I am wanting to run from Andrew because I just don't have what he needs and wants. I SEE that clearly. You're still lovable & acceptable even when you run & are fearful of making mistakes. Can you accept that your mistakes teach you what to do differently? You ave a grand opportunity to do that, now 

 Running from a child in my opinion is not the answer.
It's a form of fear, an indication that your "need" for love is not being met. Happens to me ALL the time, too.

 I also car for others peoples children very part time as a nanny. 
^5, me too! I have found that gifting them with Love & acceptance makes our time together go smoothly. They adapt well to TRUTH-telling

So on weeks I do that, I crave adult connections more so. 
I know what you mean, I felt like that, too. You get to make the Loving choices that allow you to remain peaceful, loving & happy. 

Caring about YOU,
~ Robin ~