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    Posted: 02 Jul 2011 at 10:00am
I have been weeding through my stuff and trying to sell a lot of my belongings in preparation for a move into a friends basement.  There are some things I would like to hold onto in case my situation changes and I am able to get my own place again.  One of them being a wardrobe that belonged to my grandmother. 

A friend of mine mentioned that she may be able to store it for me.  But she must have thought about it and came back and said she cannot store it in case she moves.  But then a few days ago I was with her and her family and she offered to store a bedroom set for someone in their family if they are not able to use it right now.  Much more furniture that just the one piece that I have.  She is an older woman and has a house full of her own furniture so she is not needing it for herself.  How do I not take this as rejection and let my mind go to the many places it tends to go?
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Hi Sharron,

When you understand that people are just weird and when you understand that we've all had a billion experiences that make us this way, it will erase all of those questions.
 
We ALL, everyone of us on this earth, no matter where we're from operate from either LOVE or FEAR and depending on which we operate from determines how WE see the world.
 
When you understand this in your heart, when YOU FEEL more loved you may see clearly or rightly that someone IS rejecting you, but YOU won't be offended by it, because YOU will understand in that moment that the person rejecting you is NOT doing it to hurt YOU but TO protect themselves in some way.
 
So telling the truth, being seen accepted and loved is the answer to your question. It really is always about Real Love. When you're empty you can't see things like that any other way, but what you do is tell the truth about YOURSELF in that moment and get the love that you need.
Telling the truth would look something like this:
 
A friend of mine said that she might be able to do a favor for me and then she said that she couldn't. A few days later when I was with her and one of her family members she offered that family member a space in her house for something requiring much more space than I needed. I reacted to this news badly, I felt offended and selfishly believed the lie that people have to love me the way that I want or need to be loved whenever I want it. I felt hurt, angry and rejected. I've felt this way a lot in my life and I end up not feeling closer to people who don't do what they say they're going to do, or who change their minds. I don't accept the law of choice.
 
That would be the telling the truth part, then people who are able to love you unconditionally have been given by YOU the chance to SEE you and ACCEPT you. You then CHOOSE to feel the love that is being offered in that moment.
 
Truth, seen, accepted, love.
 
 
Love to you,
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If I give people the choice to love me, there will not be any love for me.  People would not choice to love me on their own.  What is there to love in their eyes.  Most people only love you for what they can get from you.  The biggest thing people want it material possessions, mostly money.  If you have not much of that or if you don't have a good job to get money, you are not worth the time and energy.  People move on to the successful people.  
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I read your post, answered your question, did my best to help you understand why your friend behaved as she did, didn't judge you and still said, Love to you.

Your response to that is, "But."
 
You can't say but, (choose to be right) and still feel loved.
 
And I still love you.
Love to you,
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Hi Sharr,
I SEE you clearly & I can relate as well.
Before learning about Real Love, I didn't see myself or others clearly at all.
I was in so much pain that I couldn't "feel loved" even as people told me they did.
Maybe you come from that place of pain, too?
 
Nevertheless, knowing this about you doesn't prevent me from gifting you with
the necessary love & acceptance you are needing in this moment.
 
Having once been a liar, attacker, victim/victimizer, clinger & runner,
I do understand you & I hear you.
Still, we are here to gift this 20 Million dollar supply of Love to you.
If this Real Love Lifestyle is what you want, grab as much of it as you can!!!
 
This really is "food" for your soul. If you're anything like I was, you're famished!
This supply of Love freely given is what will patch up the holes in your heart,
erase painful memories of your past, give you HOPE to tell the TRUTH about yourself in Real Love.
 
Use what you know right now about the Story of the Wart King.
Tell the TRUTH about your warts to a wiseman, then to people already
in your life-circle. Still hesitant? Get on a Conference call and practice Truth-telling there
If it's Love that you need, that's how you get it.
If it's love that you want to gift away, that's also a good way to practice that.
If you just need a daily reprieve from your haunting memories, then watching
the meditiation on Module One from the FREE On-line Seminar will help.
whatever it takes to convince you that you're lovable is entirely up to you.
I had to travel 5,000 miles from Hawaii to go to a Seminar in Georgia
to experience in-person what I had experienced daily on Conference calls.
It takes however long it takes & that's ok...you're absolutely lovable & acceptable to me.
 
I do care about your Happiness,
~ Robin ~
808-463-6386
 
 


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So, "butts", where was the "butt".  Is butt the same thing as making sure someone gets the full story, the truth?  What one actually feels is true? 
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You said
"So, "butts", where was the "butt".  Is butt the same thing as making sure someone gets the full story, the truth?  What one actually feels is true? "
 
I read the posts before it and I have NO idea what you're trying to convey or ask.  I do see pretty clearly from this thread and your other posts that when anyone tries to coach you or teach you something or even offer love to you, you can't or won't hear them.  You are doing the equivalent of putting your fingers in your ears and saying "la la la la la" drowning out what is being said.  Then you ask another question or argue about some other Real Love principle.
 
All the people in Real Love that you've contacted and interacted with can keep pouring out love to you forever and if you don't listen to them the results will be the same.  You'll continue to be afraid and not feel loved and nothing will change.  You are the person who holds the key to your freedom, not any of us.
 
Love & Blessings,
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Karen,
I am hearing the best i can right now.  I will try harder and do better in a week or so.  My father passed away yesterday and right now the only thing I want to concentrate on is getting through this week and burrying him.  Please be patient and loving toward me.  But that is your choice. If you choose not to, I have others that will.
Sharron 
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If I give people the choice to love me,
 
**You don't "give" people the choice to love you. They already have that choice. People love you or they don't based on who THEY are and not on your permission.
 
there will not be any love for me. 
 
**Try to relax Sharron. There's enough love for everyone in the whole wide world.
 
People would not choice to love me on their own.
 
**Some people won't choose to love you. This is true. Some will choose to love you. This is true too.  
 
What is there to love in their eyes. 
 
**If someone looks at you and can't find anything to love then that says that there is something wrong with their vision, not who they're looking at.
 
Most people only love you for what they can get from you. 
 
**This is true and it isn't Real Love that they're offering; it's imitation. And that says something about THEM. They would be called "users."
 
The biggest thing people want it material possessions, mostly money.  If you have not much of that or if you don't have a good job to get money, you are not worth the time and energy.  People move on to the successful people.  
 
**Some people are like this, some aren't.  It's your choice which group you want to hang with. What a great thing; CHOICE. We all have it.
 
So Sharron in conclusion let me say this about the word "but." When you ask a question and someone answers it and your reply doesn't address anything in anyway as an acknowledgement that you were listening or heard what they said and you reply with words that are contrary or arguementive then you are saying BUT and when you say BUT you didn't hear what was being said. You're trying to be right, you're trying to justify your feelings. And you're free to do that forever honey but it won't ever lead to you happiness. I understand that you believe that you're just trying to give more information. That's fine. However if you give more information before you show that you got the first bit of information then you're not REALLY trying to do that instead you're trying to be RIGHT. 
 
 
Love you,
Angela
 


Edited by RLP Angla Nin - 12 Jul 2011 at 9:57am
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