need a break somewhere

Skypeid: Magicallad

   Feeling like I just cannot get a break.  Spent weeks getting ready for a yard sale since I have to sell a lot of my belongs to move into a friends basement.  Hauling stuff up and down three flights of steps (my apartment is on the third floor).  After two days of yard sailing I have only made a little over $50.00.  So is that being a victim wanting a break somewhere?  Somewhere in my life, I need a break.   

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Sharrfick1 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Group Member Joined: 04 May 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 39	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sharrfick1 Report Post Quote Reply Topic: need a break somewhere Posted: 25 Jun 2011 at 11:54am
	Feeling like I just cannot get a break. Spent weeks getting ready for a yard sale since I have to sell a lot of my belongs to move into a friends basement. Hauling stuff up and down three flights of steps (my apartment is on the third floor). After two days of yard sailing I have only made a little over $50.00. So is that being a victim wanting a break somewhere? Somewhere in my life, I need a break.

Magical Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Visit Members Homepage Add to Buddy List Real Love Coach Joined: 17 May 2007 Online Status: Offline Posts: 151	Post Options Post Reply Quote Magical Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 25 Jun 2011 at 12:45pm
	Hi Sharrfick, It sounds like you're going through a very tough time in your life. At the moment you're feeling stuck like you just cannot take a break and cannot see any way out of it. You get to choose what you do and say, nobody has the right to determine what you do or don't do. You may know that intellectually, but emotionally it's different for you because of waht you have learned growing up and in your interactions with others. Acting like a victim is your need for Real Love - when you feel loved then you'll be able to make the choice for you, and you'll be happy whether you take a break or not. make sense? With affection Magical
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bren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Wise Person Joined: 10 Dec 2008 Online Status: Offline Posts: 101	Post Options Post Reply Quote bren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 26 Jun 2011 at 8:49am
	Hi Sharron, I can tell that you are physically exhausted from all you've been doing, but what is really causing you pain is the feelings or viewpoint that you have about your situation. The feeling that life is unfair is very draining. It's true that some people have more of some things in life than others. But everyone needs to feel loved and to be loving and responsible to be truly happy. No amount of money, looks or intelligence can make a person feel happy and loved if they are empty inside. I know that you are taking steps toward learning about real love. And you are telling the truth about yourself here and being seen. Those are the first two steps toward being accepted and loved. Now that we can see you feeling like a victim and accept you as you are in that feeling, we can love the "real" you and not a cheerful facade! Just keep doing this...telling the truth. Be as loving as you can be, seeing others in their various states of emptiness and needing to be accepted as they are. One thing that helps me when I feel like a victim is acknowledging the infinite things in life that are actually going really well for me when I stop to think about it. When I'm feeling down, I often later realize that I've taken a lot of good things for granted. The more loved I feel, the faster I can zip through the negative feelings back into hopeful, positive feelings. One thing I can see now is that I am choosing to do this....to see things differently. If I wait for long periods of time (and I have done that - being depressed and miserable for months at a time), life gradually shows me this brighter side with little effort on my part....but when I choose to start looking for happiness and hope, I get there faster. I like the fast lane better. Love You! Brenda

Sharrfick1 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Group Member Joined: 04 May 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 39	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sharrfick1 Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 27 Jun 2011 at 6:48am
	Thanks for seeing me......Break, not like a vacation or relaxation. I get that. Break like something in life that will work for me. Break like something we ease up, break like something good or something a bit easier will work out for me. Sparing the details, much pain and suffering and serious law suit hanging over my head. I don't get how and why I am being penalized for so much money when I tried to conduct my life with honesty and integrity. I declared every penny I made babysitting, housesitting, dogsitting to the government because I try to live by biblical principles. But I am suffering the consequences now of being honest and trying to live an honest life. It gets very discouraging. But discouragement is something that is not fatal. What feels fatal is the possibility of loosing the fight. That is not a choice I would make but a choice my body, mind and emotions may chose for me because we are all human beings and I thing we can only take so much.