almost tired

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   Today I am feeling like I am tired.  Tired of trying and tired of trying to make things work.  Bad things keep happening one after the other and my future looks bleak.  At what point does one just quit trying and live by the words "eat drink and be merry"?

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Sharrfick1 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Group Member Joined: 04 May 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 39	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sharrfick1 Report Post Quote Reply Topic: almost tired Posted: 25 May 2011 at 9:03am
	Today I am feeling like I am tired. Tired of trying and tired of trying to make things work. Bad things keep happening one after the other and my future looks bleak. At what point does one just quit trying and live by the words "eat drink and be merry"?

RLP Angla Nin Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Real Love Coach Joined: 20 Nov 2007 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 311	Post Options Post Reply Quote RLP Angla Nin Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 25 May 2011 at 10:21am
	Hi Sharron, I'm glad that you're not TOO tired to reach out for love. There's plenty of it to go around and no shortage in sight anywhere. I understand how tired you feel honey, how it all can seem pointless and like you've simply just had enough! You've been trying to make things work all of your life with tools that don't work. There are so many different ways that we can manipulate and cling and run and it seems therefore that we're trying DIFFERENT things, but we're not. Imitation love is ineffective. And no matter how long or hard we try, or how we mix things up it's still imitation, and can never make us happy. Ever. You've been introduced to something REAL and effective it's called REAL love and you are surrounded by people who are willing love and support you as you learn a new and healthy way of living. All you have to do is, tell the truth about yourself, allow yourself to be seen and then feel the acceptance offered and know that you are indeed loved. You have to do this over and over again. If you do this, there is absolutely no way that your life won't change. It must. It will. You're new at this sweetheart, and need MANY interactions with people who love you unconditionally before you'll begin to feel the effects of Real Love. I encourage you to hang in there and keep reaching out. I'm really glad that you wrote and want you to know that I love you. I see your pain and although I don't have all of the answers for you, I do have lots and lots of love. Love you tons Sharron, Angela Edited by RLP Angla Nin - 25 May 2011 at 10:22am
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Sharrfick1 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Group Member Joined: 04 May 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 39	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sharrfick1 Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 25 May 2011 at 10:40am
	Ok, I hear you. and I am not going to say "but".....oh crap I got to say but....so...... but I want answers. So I guess I want to be seen for wanting the answers (shhhh, and for saying "but")

RLP Angla Nin Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Real Love Coach Joined: 20 Nov 2007 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 311	Post Options Post Reply Quote RLP Angla Nin Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 25 May 2011 at 10:54am
	Hi honey, I'm glad that you can hear me! It's enough for now to just be aware of what you're saying. You really don't have to stop doing or saying anything ever in order to BE loved, but if you want to FEEL loved you'll change as time goes on. You'll begin to see how your 'but' is only hurting you. I see that you want to the answers I totally get it!! Really. Who among us doesn't want the pain to stop? It makes sense to me, so not to worry, you'll get there just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep making the calls, writing the posts and so on. Love you tons, Angela
	Certified Real Love Coach~ amurray@reallove.com

rlpkaren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Real Love Coach Joined: 12 Nov 2007 Location: Virgnia USA Online Status: Offline Posts: 708	Post Options Post Reply Quote rlpkaren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 25 May 2011 at 12:44pm
	Well, if people could just "eat drink and be merry" they probably would. The problem is, they eat and drink to excess trying to be merry and instead end up fat, drunk, and miserable. I say that partly in jest, but more often it's pretty close to the truth. Using getting and protecting behaviors to avoid pain just doesn't work in the long haul. I've been where you are many times, really. And the solution is simple, but not easy. Nobody likes pain and we want it to go away quick. Having faith that Real Love brings relief takes, well, faith. It also takes time. For a brief dark period when I couldn't function to do my job, I took antidepressants (in 2002). I also got myself involved in serving others less fortunate than I. I volunteered in the Third World and began to be grateful for what I had. Then, once I found Real Love, I jumped into it with gusto. I read the books, listened to the CDs, went to seminars, did training, called people, let them love me. and learned and learned. As I did those things I felt more and more loved. Eventually I gave up the antidepressants because I didn't need them anymore. Sherron, I do care about you and want you to find joy and relief from pain. I hope you'll follow Angela's suggestions. She's one of the most loving people I know. Love & Light. KarenH
	Learn from your mistakes and recognize that everything in life can be used as a lesson once you are willing to be teachable.

Sharrfick1 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Group Member Joined: 04 May 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 39	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sharrfick1 Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 25 May 2011 at 9:18pm
	So this faith that I keep hearing about, was it in the Real Love book because I don't remember listening (I did the book on CD). I know what faith is when it relates to our relationship with God. Well I know that in my head but not so much in my heart. But what is "faith" as it relates to Real Love? I heard someone mention it on the call tonight and in these emails.

rlpkaren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Real Love Coach Joined: 12 Nov 2007 Location: Virgnia USA Online Status: Offline Posts: 708	Post Options Post Reply Quote rlpkaren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 27 May 2011 at 9:49am
	Hi Sherron, I don't know where it's mentioned in the original Real Love book, but Greg talks about it at length on pages 148-168 in Real Love for Wise Men and Women. The following are direct excerpts or paraphrased excerpts from the book that really struck me. We all have faith in something and we act on that faith every day. Most of us place our faith in the Getting and Protecting Behaviors and Imitation Love we're familiar with. This is why so many people remain stuck. Faith isn't a mysterious belief in the unknown. It's a choice we make. We make the choice to tell the truth about our G&Ps over and over to people who can understand us and accept us. When you have faith, you choose to believe that practicing the Real Love principles will produce results. Then you practice the principles based on that belief. Finally, if you trust in things you can't entirely see or understand, miraculous things can happen, and you'll receive justification for the faith you blindly exercised. Blessings & hope, KarenH
	Learn from your mistakes and recognize that everything in life can be used as a lesson once you are willing to be teachable.

bren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Wise Person Joined: 10 Dec 2008 Online Status: Offline Posts: 101	Post Options Post Reply Quote bren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 27 May 2011 at 7:51pm
	Sharron, you said: "I know what faith is when it relates to our relationship with God. Well I know that in my head but not so much in my heart. " If you don't know it in your heart, then it probably isn't faith. In that same passage Karen referred to from Real Love for Wise Men and Women, Greg says "Faith is in the farming". This means that there has to be action or change in behavior. We often desire the fruits of faith, but we haven't chosen to have faith - as in "do the farming". I know this little routine all too well! Basically that intellectual belief amounts to no more than futile pining away for happiness..........believing that happiness exists, but having no trust that it can be yours. Like the Bible says, "Faith without works is dead". It has to be exercized or it will not be of benefit. So it comes down to just doing something.....or continuing to do something and not giving up because you KNOW it will eventually succeed.

Sharrfick1 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Group Member Joined: 04 May 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 39	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sharrfick1 Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 28 May 2011 at 11:18pm
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sabra1956 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List New Member Joined: 11 Jul 2011 Location: NC Online Status: Offline Posts: 3	Post Options Post Reply Quote sabra1956 Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 12 Jul 2011 at 10:45pm
	Hi, I'm pretty new to this site but I remember an old phrase called 'Fake it till you make it". Isn't this something of like the faith that everyone is trying to define. If you seek happiness and the faith to continue to look for it, then can't you just start by pretending that you have found it and starting behaviors to increase your love for your self and forgive yourself for being imperfect and even if you don't feel 100% truthful, tell yourself that and start your day on that note. What can you lose? Tell yourself it is okay to not understand why and begin to act out your life as if you do..does this make sense..hope it helps..have faith that you will achieve what you want out of life. Fill your life with hope until you find what you need and accept that many others also seek their "truth". You are never alone when so many feel the same way.. good luck and "fake it till you make it" every day. It might be already within you.