21 things I learned in Phoenix

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   1.       FEAR WILL KILL YOU.
2.       Safety is crap.
3.       You don’t have to keep pleasing the people who are shooting at you.
4.       Avoiding fear and pain by protecting yourself will always leave you back where you started.
5.       It is all black and white, not gray.  All 0’s and 1’s.  It either IS or ISN’T. (I didn’t catch what IT is exactly……..lol.  I think Greg meant IT could be anything(?) : Fear, Love, the Truth.
6.       Praise can be deadly.
7.       Quit ALL activity that drains the love from your life.
8.       Have FAITH.
9.       There are some things in a relationship that can’t improve gradually.
10.   It is IMPOSSIBLE to care about others when you are in pain.
11.   Safety is CRAP   (thought it was worth saying twice.)
12.   Every time a child talks, LISTEN!  They will soon stop talking to you.
13.   You can’t sugarcoat sh*t.  (< Greg’s words, verbatim)
14.   Some people apparently like sh*t sandwiches because they keep going back for more.
15.   Wear water-proof mascara to Greg’s seminars.
16.   The people I have been afraid of all my life are a lot like me.
17.   I can’t for the life of me understand why there weren’t 500 people at this seminar, but I’m kinda glad there weren’t.
18.   Greg is a beautiful soul.
19.   Donna is mysterious.
20.   Only LOVE matters.
21.   Sweet people like Osha still love you even if you snore like a bear.

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bren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Wise Person Joined: 10 Dec 2008 Online Status: Offline Posts: 101	Post Options Post Reply Quote bren Report Post Quote Reply Topic: 21 things I learned in Phoenix Posted: 16 Mar 2011 at 1:09pm
	1. FEAR WILL KILL YOU. 2. Safety is crap. 3. You don’t have to keep pleasing the people who are shooting at you. 4. Avoiding fear and pain by protecting yourself will always leave you back where you started. 5. It is all black and white, not gray. All 0’s and 1’s. It either IS or ISN’T. (I didn’t catch what IT is exactly……..lol. I think Greg meant IT could be anything(?) : Fear, Love, the Truth. 6. Praise can be deadly. 7. Quit ALL activity that drains the love from your life. 8. Have FAITH. 9. There are some things in a relationship that can’t improve gradually. 10. It is IMPOSSIBLE to care about others when you are in pain. 11. Safety is CRAP (thought it was worth saying twice.) 12. Every time a child talks, LISTEN! They will soon stop talking to you. 13. You can’t sugarcoat sht. (< Greg’s words, verbatim) 14. Some people apparently like sht sandwiches because they keep going back for more. 15. Wear water-proof mascara to Greg’s seminars. 16. The people I have been afraid of all my life are a lot like me. 17. I can’t for the life of me understand why there weren’t 500 people at this seminar, but I’m kinda glad there weren’t. 18. Greg is a beautiful soul. 19. Donna is mysterious. 20. Only LOVE matters. 21. Sweet people like Osha still love you even if you snore like a bear.

Julifer Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Group Member Joined: 10 Jul 2010 Location: Chicago Online Status: Offline Posts: 36	Post Options Post Reply Quote Julifer Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 17 Mar 2011 at 12:40pm
	OMGsh Brenda, that brought a laugh and a smile to my day. Awesome to hear you had an inspirational time. I love number 12; it does resonate with me. I like 5 too cuz I have been told many times I am too black and white. Now I say, Yes, I am!!! I hope your family is absorbing the love you brought home with you. Peace and love, Julie

rlpkaren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Real Love Coach Joined: 12 Nov 2007 Location: Virgnia USA Online Status: Offline Posts: 708	Post Options Post Reply Quote rlpkaren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 17 Mar 2011 at 2:32pm
	I guess "it's all black or white" is like "Do or do not! There is no try." (That's a Yoda quote, of course.) Another thought . . . FEAR WILL KILL YOU and LOVE WILL SAVE YOU And I don't find Donna in the least mysterious! Love ya, KarenH Edited by rlpkaren - 19 Mar 2011 at 3:42pm

bren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Wise Person Joined: 10 Dec 2008 Online Status: Offline Posts: 101	Post Options Post Reply Quote bren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 18 Mar 2011 at 12:38pm
	Right, right, right, Karen. I was going to say, being STUCK in fear kills you. Not fear - because you can't avoid some fear in life, just as you can't avoid stress. But letting fear freeze you into immobility is what kills you. Greg called it the "Freaking Fog of Fear" that some of us walk around in (me!). Keeps you lost, confused and hopeless. And Karen - I love it when you quote Yoda. (I live with a Star Wars freak.) So here's some more vintage Yoda on the subject of fear: Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering. YODA, Star Wars Episode I: The Phantom Menace Edited by bren - 18 Mar 2011 at 3:42pm

bren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Wise Person Joined: 10 Dec 2008 Online Status: Offline Posts: 101	Post Options Post Reply Quote bren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 18 Mar 2011 at 1:09pm
	And Julie, Thanks! - I was inspired and I feel I have a lot to give to my family....but all in good time. I was talking to Greg about how desperate I feel to help my son - but he reminded me that I'm drowning and I have to help myself first. It's tempting to come home from a seminar all psyched up and talk everyone to death about Real Love. But I realize I'd better live it rather than preach it. (Not easy for me, I'm verbose as you can see.) The whole black and white thing - wow, I've had a lot of arguments on that topic. I once saw Barbara Walters on tv talking about an interview she had with Katherine Hepburn years ago. Hepburn said she saw the world in black and white. Walters said she personally viewed the world in shades of gray. They are both smart women, but I sided with Babs. I have always been a "shades of gray" person - there are always exceptions, reasons, additional data to consider, mitigating circumstances, extenuating circumstances, pre-existing conditions...... Maybe life is more simple than that. Yikes.

RLP Angla Nin Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Real Love Coach Joined: 20 Nov 2007 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 311	Post Options Post Reply Quote RLP Angla Nin Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 18 Mar 2011 at 3:14pm
	Yikes is right Brenda, but so good. I've been reading your posts and listening to you on the calls and I'm just amazed at how much love you absorbed and are sharing. I've gotten chills more than once and cried too listening to you and reading. Yeah, black and white, night or day, pregnant or not....everything is as simple as that. Once years ago, I used to walk around the lake for exercise and on one morning I felt extra strong and decided to jog a little. A littel turned into a lot and a lot turned into too much. I came home and my thighs began to cramp. I was in so much pain and I did everything I could think of to get the pain to stop. I rolled on the floor, I cried, I hit them, rubbed them, pleaded to God, and whoever else was listening, I made promises that I'd never do that again and so on. The point is that while I was in pain, nothing or no one else mattered to me. My pain consumed all of my attention. When I read your list of 21 things, #10 just jumped out at me. I love them all, so much so that I'm going to print them and post 'em so they're everywhere I look. Thanks for sharing, Love you tons, Angela
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RLP Angla Nin Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Real Love Coach Joined: 20 Nov 2007 Location: United States Online Status: Offline Posts: 311	Post Options Post Reply Quote RLP Angla Nin Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 18 Mar 2011 at 3:20pm
	And Brenda, I agree with you completely, Greg is a beautiful soul. You just seem to forget your troubles when you're in his presence. It's the love in him that is so pure and undiluted. Amazing, isn't it? I can't tell you how much my life has changed because he loves me. Love to you, Angela
	Certified Real Love Coach~ amurray@reallove.com

Melanie Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List New Member Joined: 18 Mar 2011 Location: Fairbanks, AK Online Status: Offline Posts: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote Melanie Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 18 Mar 2011 at 11:39pm
	Brenda, What a wonderful list! My favorite one is: 16. The people I have been afraid of all my life are a lot like me. Nicely put. The more other people stop protecting themselves, the more I see that they ARE a lot like me. Then I'm inspired to stop protecting myself because I feel safer around them. Or I can start by dropping my protection, then others might follow suit once they realize that I'm a lot like them. We're not alone. It was great to meet you at the conference. Love, Melanie

bren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Wise Person Joined: 10 Dec 2008 Online Status: Offline Posts: 101	Post Options Post Reply Quote bren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 19 Mar 2011 at 11:25am
	Melanie........Yes! It works both ways. Everyone benefits when we start telling the truth. It was wonderful meeting you too at the seminar! Can't wait to do it again. Love, Brenda

bren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Wise Person Joined: 10 Dec 2008 Online Status: Offline Posts: 101	Post Options Post Reply Quote bren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 19 Mar 2011 at 3:30pm
	Angela, Thank you........and Amen! I was telling a few people that during my month of coaching with you, I didn't think that we talked all that much..........mainly because for me, talking to you for 15 minutes kept me full for days. You are the opposite of Chinese food. Your love is that REAL! Love you! Brenda Edited by bren - 19 Mar 2011 at 3:31pm