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Posted: 14 Feb 2009 at 12:24pm
i am really noticing how when i dont get what i want i get angry.
i am noticing it more clearly because my daughter is also getting mad when she does not get what she wants.
in fact i see it in my mom, oh and dad, oh and partner.
i guess what i am seeing is my disappointment and anger because somewhere in there i have expectations, well all over the place in there.
i asked what to do for my daughter on a call, and i was told i am too empty to do anything, that i first need to feel more love.
an example: when we got up this morning Zoe put on music and wanted to dance, i was making a fire and when i did not jump up and dance she hit me.
i got angry, in fact i am still angry she is trying to control everything i do, in fact she is hitting me on the back trying to get my attention, in fact i just spanked her, and now i am feeling angry at my partner and like a big VICTIM.
now she is on my lap eating her cereal, i apologized for spanking her. i told her that is not a very good way to teach her not to hit.
so i guess what i do is for the most part i do whatever she wants, then when i have given too much i get angry and mean. crazy making i know, just like my mom.
i really dont want to be angry anymore, any feed back?
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|Post Options Quote Reply Posted: 14 Feb 2009 at 10:32pm|
Hi there Sweet Sistah, Yes-I love you when you are acting like a victim, acting crazy and "mimicking" what was done to you as a child. I absolutely agree that anger is selfish, unloving, inconsiderate, irresponsible, having expectations is a "set-up" for failure and viloates our child's/partner's right to choose what they say & do. One step of faith when you are loved unconditionally by all of us will change the tide of that downward spiral. It doesn't always have to work against you at all.
When you see that you are only responsible for your own choices, it only makes sense that when you are telling the TRUTH about the bad & uglies, you will "feel" loved enough to gift your loved ones with a more peaceful, loving & happier Osha.
~ Robin ~
Edited by RoknRob121 - 15 Feb 2009 at 1:10am
~ I'm the one to call when you are ready to tell the TRUTH about it all~ 808-494-1505
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