Unethical behavior of spouse

   Hello everyone. I had a concern I was hoping someone here could help me with.

During the course of my partners work, she'll do something I and many others consider unethical. She says that it's easy money, and it doesn't effect her at all, so why not? Without going into much detail, I'll just say that it upsets me on a deep level. I should certainly speak with her about it, and I have every intention to do just that. The possibility of her refusing to change this behavior is creating in me a great anxiety. I want to love her unconditionally, but this is making it extremely difficult. What do you do in instances such as these? Any thoughts?

Author	Message / View First Unread Post Share Topic Printable Version Delicious Digg Facebook Furl Google Boomarks Google Buzz MySpace Newsvine reddit StumbleUpon Translate Twitter Windows Live Yahoo Bookmarks Topic Search Topic Options Post Reply Create New Topic
Alluistras Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List New Member Joined: 22 Jul 2012 Location: Washington Online Status: Offline Posts: 6	Post Options Post Reply Quote Alluistras Report Post Quote Reply Topic: Unethical behavior of spouse Posted: 22 Jul 2012 at 7:11pm
	Hello everyone. I had a concern I was hoping someone here could help me with. During the course of my partners work, she'll do something I and many others consider unethical. She says that it's easy money, and it doesn't effect her at all, so why not? Without going into much detail, I'll just say that it upsets me on a deep level. I should certainly speak with her about it, and I have every intention to do just that. The possibility of her refusing to change this behavior is creating in me a great anxiety. I want to love her unconditionally, but this is making it extremely difficult. What do you do in instances such as these? Any thoughts?

RoknRob121 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Visit Members Homepage Add to Buddy List Wise Person Joined: 04 Jul 2007 Location: Hilo, Hawaii Online Status: Offline Posts: 870	Post Options Post Reply Quote RoknRob121 Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 28 Jul 2012 at 5:21pm
	Hi Alluistras, One way to recognixe behaviors of others and why they use them is to remember that it's ALWAYS about Real Love or the lack of it. More than likely, since she is not the one posting, I can only share with you what I've learned about TRUTH-telling. We tell the TRUTH about our own uses of Getting & Protecting behaviors in an attempt to SEE clearly what it is that we do to contribute to our own unhappiness. Since you can't control or change the behaviors of others, we can also SEE them clearly as they use theirs, Does that make sense? I can SEE that she may be empty, lonely & fearful which is why she does what she does. It doesn't make her less lovable or acceptable to you does it? That's the real question, here. It's not about ethics, it's about how able you are to love & accept her. Can you SEE this clearly? You may need to equip yourself with more Real Love before you can extend your hand out to her in order to help her to SEE what she is doing to create her own unhappiness. Sometimes, when others suffer the consequences of their behaviors they will learn a valued lesson. Sometimes, their mistakes are just none of our business. Whichever brings you the most happiness in any given moment is what is worth pursuing. Hope that helps you to keep Real Love at the forefront of ALL your interactions. Lovingly, ~ Robin in Hilo ~ Ph. 808-238-4175
	~ I'm the one to call when you are ready to tell the TRUTH about it all~ 808-494-1505