sex before merriage

i am completely new to the forum and fairly new to reallove concept.

Me and my boyfriend had to go long way   to realise what truth  meant in relationship and what unconditional love was..but it understanding it didnt make things completely easy for us yet, i guess because  we both really lack love in our selves.. however we and especially i am willing to do what is needed to make it happen and have in my life these relationships which are one out of hundred and have this peace in myself and know that my partner has it too.

So recently i start contemplating on sex before marriage subject, and i start believing in it more and more, but i am not sure how to present it to my boyfriend, ..its just this amazing tranquillity that takes me over every time i think about trying to make it happen in our relationship, but i feel like there has to be a condition which is - for us both to be just really loving, i know i can want it from myself, but from him...that is a condition i am asking from him...

All in all i would like to know,or to know where to find more information on sex before marriage and why it is important  or not and how is it with this condition that i want to be loved,  while loving someone and how does it work. 

I ll try to eplain more simple in case you didnt understand me :) but i ll give it a try first and maybe you did:)

Thank You