disrepectful behavior

Yesterday I observed my 17 year old nephew yelling and acting disrespectful  to his mother (a behavior I have observed before).  This morning I viewed this video of middle schoolers bulling an elderly woman on the bus.  I do not have children but I care for children as a nanny.  

Question 1:  How does the care of children at a young age (as a caregiver not a parent) affect a child from growing up to be disrespectful and a bully? 

Question 2:  Why does my nephew act this way and why are these middle schoolers on the bus acting this way?  

Question 3:  According to Real Love, how should these children, and in my nephew case, almost a young adult, be disaplined?

Edited by rlpkaren - 26 Jun 2012 at 2:59pm

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Sharrfick1 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Group Member Joined: 04 May 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 39	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sharrfick1 Report Post Quote Reply Topic: disrepectful behavior Posted: 24 Jun 2012 at 9:10am
	Yesterday I observed my 17 year old nephew yelling and acting disrespectful to his mother (a behavior I have observed before). This morning I viewed this video of middle schoolers bulling an elderly woman on the bus. I do not have children but I care for children as a nanny. Question 1: How does the care of children at a young age (as a caregiver not a parent) affect a child from growing up to be disrespectful and a bully? Question 2: Why does my nephew act this way and why are these middle schoolers on the bus acting this way? Question 3: According to Real Love, how should these children, and in my nephew case, almost a young adult, be disaplined? Edited by rlpkaren - 26 Jun 2012 at 2:59pm

bren Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Wise Person Joined: 10 Dec 2008 Online Status: Offline Posts: 101	Post Options Post Reply Quote bren Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 24 Jun 2012 at 4:04pm
	From what I've learned so far, children act disrespectful and bully others because they don't feel loved, AND they haven't been taught to be loving or responsible. You nephew acts that way for the same reason, the kids on the bus acted that way for the same reason and my son acts that way for the same reason. As bus monitor, this woman did not have the love and courage to teach these children anything. No blaming here. She didn't know how. And as sweet as she looked on the news clip I saw, she is still acting like a victim and people are tripping over themselves to send her money for a "nice vacation" to the tune of $500,000+ ~ which really isnt going to make anything better (except for the fact that she no longer will need to work as a bus monitor). As children feel more loved, they simply do not have the need to be disrepectful or act out in other ways. They need love and acceptance (as much as this little lady on the bus does)....and when they are feeling loved, then they can be taught about respect. Without love, they will just learn to be more careful about how they attack to avoid consequences.

Sharrfick1 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Group Member Joined: 04 May 2011 Online Status: Offline Posts: 39	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sharrfick1 Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 02 Jul 2012 at 12:54pm
	Thanks Brenda, that makes good sense. I do know the the older we get the less energy we have to deal with that kind of behavior. Not that I don't want to deal with it. It just physically and emotionally drains me more. The bus monitor may not have had that kind of stamina. But then again, I wonder if she felt loved would she have had the energy to deal with the kids behavior and love them in it. Thanks again