Is This Real Love Or What Is This Feeling?

Skypeid: Magicallad

   Within the last few months I have grown very close to one of my friends. Never anything more than friends, but we have become very, very close. I am in the process of a divorce because both me and my husband agreed neither of us were happy and it would be better to just be friends. Got married to young and too fast.

Anyways my friend and I have hung out almost every day since we've met. Almost always with other members of our group, but it is always him and me there. We have a lot of fun together and keep learning we have similar interests and ideas. Sometimes it's a little scary, because randomly we will make the same EXACT comment at the same time. We both have similar, and very strong personalities, although there are some major differences that seem to complement each other.(example he is more assertive, while i'm more passive). 

I care more for him than anyone I've known my entire life, and his happiness has almost become synced with my own. My friends have noticed that we mirror each others moods, immediately when we see each other.If one of us is feeling down or off the other can't help but do the same.

I have also noticed that he is the only person that I truly trust in my life, I am completely loyal to him and would never do anything to lose that loyalty. Since him coming into my life all the scars from my past have been healing and all the walls I built up are crumbling down. Now that I've steped back and thought about it I am almost scared that I let him in so far. I don't even know how he feels. If he just cares deeply about me as a friend or what. Idk

Anyways we both are very daring individuals and have gotten ourselfs and our group into some pretty dangerous situations. During one of the worst I was prepared and would accept death to protect him and everyone he cared about. Not the talk most people do, but that acceptance that you were going to die and were ok with it and knew what you needed to do.

The feelings are strange to me, and I could continue for pages with everything I feel or how we act. But I thought I knew what love was, and if this is love then I will admit I have never loved anyone else in my life. These are the strongest feelings I've ever felt and I don't even understand what they are.

Any thoughts?

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LittleOne Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List New Member Joined: 22 Jun 2012 Online Status: Offline Posts: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote LittleOne Report Post Quote Reply Topic: Is This Real Love Or What Is This Feeling? Posted: 22 Jun 2012 at 12:51pm
	Within the last few months I have grown very close to one of my friends. Never anything more than friends, but we have become very, very close. I am in the process of a divorce because both me and my husband agreed neither of us were happy and it would be better to just be friends. Got married to young and too fast. Anyways my friend and I have hung out almost every day since we've met. Almost always with other members of our group, but it is always him and me there. We have a lot of fun together and keep learning we have similar interests and ideas. Sometimes it's a little scary, because randomly we will make the same EXACT comment at the same time. We both have similar, and very strong personalities, although there are some major differences that seem to complement each other.(example he is more assertive, while i'm more passive). I care more for him than anyone I've known my entire life, and his happiness has almost become synced with my own. My friends have noticed that we mirror each others moods, immediately when we see each other.If one of us is feeling down or off the other can't help but do the same. I have also noticed that he is the only person that I truly trust in my life, I am completely loyal to him and would never do anything to lose that loyalty. Since him coming into my life all the scars from my past have been healing and all the walls I built up are crumbling down. Now that I've steped back and thought about it I am almost scared that I let him in so far. I don't even know how he feels. If he just cares deeply about me as a friend or what. Idk Anyways we both are very daring individuals and have gotten ourselfs and our group into some pretty dangerous situations. During one of the worst I was prepared and would accept death to protect him and everyone he cared about. Not the talk most people do, but that acceptance that you were going to die and were ok with it and knew what you needed to do. The feelings are strange to me, and I could continue for pages with everything I feel or how we act. But I thought I knew what love was, and if this is love then I will admit I have never loved anyone else in my life. These are the strongest feelings I've ever felt and I don't even understand what they are. Any thoughts?

Magical Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Visit Members Homepage Add to Buddy List Real Love Coach Joined: 17 May 2007 Online Status: Offline Posts: 151	Post Options Post Reply Quote Magical Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 23 Jun 2012 at 2:50am
	Hello Littleone, I understand what you are going through. Upon reading real love and the help of Dr Greg Baer all that turned around because i learned what love really is. I am happily married. My first suggestion is to talk to Greg, and find out what would help you best. Then you'll know what steps to take. Edited by Magical - 23 Jun 2012 at 2:51am
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Grayotter Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List New Member Joined: 25 Jun 2012 Location: Morro Bay,ca Online Status: Offline Posts: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote Grayotter Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 25 Jun 2012 at 9:24pm
	By what you're saying, I'm not sure if this is Real Love or Real Lust! I think a smart loving action would be give your friend a copy of the Real Love book. Then after discussing the book, he will be better informed about what Real love is and you will be better informed about his values. You'll learn where he's at if he provides in depth Real Love answers to your book discussion.

Greg Baer Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Admin Group Joined: 17 Apr 2010 Online Status: Offline Posts: 5	Post Options Post Reply Quote Greg Baer Report Post Quote Reply Posted: 06 Jul 2012 at 7:55am
	What you're experiencing is called "falling in love," and although the feelings are very powerful, it's not genuine love, and it's not genuine happiness. You have found someone with similar interests, who pays you more attention than anyone has in a long time, and who enjoys being around you. That's great fun, but it is NO predictor of long-term success in relationships. Almost every divorced couple begins with falling in love. Read Real Love in Dating.