How does real love deal with money?

The conference call list is here on the website. From the home page look at the different drop down menus and you'll find it. It's up to you to see if any of the calls will work for you based on the time differences. There is also a UK call that might work better.  I know there are people in China teaching Real Love and perhaps Greg can help you with that. Good luck.

Most of us sit in a dark room, lost and afraid, within reach of a light switch we cannot see. ~ Greg Baer

Faith is what is lacking and what is needed.

 

Love,

KarenH

Yesterday, the colleagues in my office played a joke on me. I became angry. Nothing bad happened because I always choose to be silent whenever I am angry.

When they do that, I always feel that they are judging me. So I realized that I was angry because I was afraid that people would judge me and criticize me.

Even when I am not angry with the joke, I don't know how to respond. I guess I am afraid that I would make things worse and become the target of everyone.

I hope I have told the truth correctly.


Edited by youmustbelieve - 03 Jul 2012 at 10:37pm

Yesterday, the colleagues in my office played a joke on me. I became angry.

Edited by rlpkaren - 06 Jul 2012 at 10:21am

rlpkaren: "You are feeling "rebellious/angry/frustrated" because you're just plain angry."

*** You're right, and I admit that.  When I hear that the suggested answer is to have "Faith", I get even more angry, because it feels ineffective to say such a thing (even if it is true) to someone who doesn't know how to access it ( ...like Greg says in one of his presentations of the drowning person story... that saying "Why don't you just swim?" to a drowning person is just plain ridiculous ).  The principles of Real Love very carefully spell out how I can "fix" this situation... by working on telling self-truths to people who can hear them.  I have begun that process.  I am seeing progress with it... very small progress... unsatisfyingly small.  It's been eight months so far and I have not yet found one "whole" person who I can do this with.  I say "whole" because I have certainly found "moments" where I can do it... though those moments are infrequent and there is no consistent pattern that I can count on with them.  This is not enough to build a true foundation to consistently grow on.  In fact, I realized that I already had this for a long long time in my life without knowing or being able to describe it for what it is.  Now that I know the details provided by the language of Real Love, I understand my circumstances much better, and I am, in many ways, MORE angry about it.


"You didn't like what I said.  That's okay with me . . . really.  Your anger can't hurt me."

*** Yes, you're right, I didn't like it.  It's good that you know the difference between "you" and what was said.  My anger is not directed at you... it is directed at the situation.  I don't like what was said... for the reasons provided above.  I don't have any judgment of you.  You just are.


"Your anger and fear are killing you."

*** Agreed.


"<fear is> what keeps you analyzing and analyzing Real Love and failing to do much to change anything."

*** I agree that analysis for the sake of itself is ineffective... but if this is to suggest that analysis is an ineffective tool, I disagree with that.


"You lack faith that it will work, so there are lots of "yes, buts" and "maybe there could be" this or that when someone suggests ways for you to feel loved."

*** You're right.  There is more to faith than this, though.  Faith is a subjective concept.  It is not true to say that I lack faith.  The better question is to ask WHAT I have faith in.  I absolutely do have faith... but it's more accurate to say that I have faith in things that aren't serving genuine happiness.  The ability understand and tap into the faith that I DO have is a key step in accessing my subconscious trust.  If a message is delivered to me through a channel I have been subconsciously programmed NOT to trust, the message is discarded involuntarily and automatically... and changing this situation is not done simply by suggestion alone (ie. "Have Faith").  Going through channels I already subconsciously trust is one way to get things through my programming (aka. deliver things through the terms of my existing faith).  Another way would be to bypass my programming altogether (aka. shock therapy?).  I seek to learn how to do either or both of these... or anything that achieves the equivalent result.  This, to me is how to make the process of Real Love more effective... for myself and possibly for others as well.  In another thread with "Dancer", I've talked about combining Real Love with Drama as a way to "feel" it more effectively.  It's been brewing in me for a while... maybe shock therapy is too drastic, but Drama Therapy of some sort might work ;-)


"Fear makes everybody blind and deaf."

*** Agreed.


"You are in the pool Cory."

*** Agreed.


"When someone extends a pole for you to grab you tell them "no, I want a vest".

*** It is through Greg's drowning person metaphor that I learned that drowning people aren't capable of making choices... they are in survival/panic mode where reason and logic simply do not exist.  When I'm drowning I don't know the difference between a pole and a vest... I am not making any decisions in drowning state... there is only automatic action... and only ONE ACTION - "GRAB ONTO ANYTHING I CAN AND SEE IF IT SAVES ME".


"Until you take a leap of faith and just start practicing Real Love as it exists, nothing is going to change."

*** I don't know how to do that more than I have been already.