RL @ Church

Hi Brian,

Good Morning Brian. I live in Sterling, VA, attend Unity of Fairfax in Oakton, and have coached Real Love for years. I moderate and answer questions here in the Forums and host the Thursday conference call. All I can do is try to love and teach to the best of my ability. That's all you can do too. Greg says that a great way to live (as a coach or wise person) is not to get disappointed when people don't like what we say or prideful when they do.

"I just can't seem to help anyone else have the 'ah-ha' moments"

Hi Brian,

My name is Cory.  I've been reading Real Love materials on and off for about 8 months.  I'm not very good at it yet... but I'm improving.

The first and only thing I wrote in this forum until now was when I first began immersing myself in the material and quickly felt like I hit a serious wall... the wall I believe you are referring to here.

I have two things to say at this point...

1) I came to a conclusion that the best way for me to help others is to help myself via Real Love... which, in turn, actually changes how I view others... which is very much like changing THEM without actually changing them.  It's actually a very spiritually simple answer to a complex question about how to change the world... by changing my perception of it.

2) In the first post I made in this forum, I stated that my goal was to make the process of being able to be Loved and Loving "Easy".  The existing Real Love materials are an amazing resource... but they are primarily in a form that, in my opinion, is very technical... very scientific.  Personally, this is why I relate to it so well compared to many other approaches... however, my experience has shown me time and time again that many people need different approaches to be able to "feel" something in order to truly learn and accept it.  For example, Art, in it's many forms, can possibly convey the "feeling" of Real Love more effectively with some people than linguistic descriptions can.  While I do believe that the form ( language, etc ) is secondary to the idea that the message needs to be delivered by a person who is capable of being loving while they deliver it, this same thing can be done with other mediums of communication... including art... and I suggest that humans are actually more naturally suited to effectively receive artistic communication than technical communication.  One of my personal ideas as of late is to use drama as a method of teaching Real Love... because acting is a safe way for people to practice different emotions and, in doing so, get a sense of how they feel.  Essentially, it would be like a Real Love game... a way to have fun while engaging directly in the principles of Real Love without the potential negative effects of using it in the "real world" before a person is ready for that.  In line with what I wrote in #1 above... my personal goal for something like this idea would be that I would get to use this "acting game" myself as much as possible to accelerate my own practice and learning.

If any of this interests you, please let me know.

"Perhaps your concept is totally different but I'm quite intrigued by it."

*** There are many approaches I can imagine... from the most simple ideas that can be generally used by anyone to specifically developed techniques to help RL professionals become even more effective.  Your specific suggestion is definitely one of the thoughts that crossed my mind.

FYI: I simultaneously wrote a slightly different detail elsewhere in the forum where I had posted a topic months ago, and where you actually responded to me as well ( http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1070 ).

I'm interested in brainstorming on this and developing things from it.  Perhaps this should be it's own topic in the MISC category towards that goal.