Since you're not married to your boyfriend, you have to decide whether you want to stay in a relationship that has already proven to be unloving. You can't force the relationship to succeed.  Just observe whether it could become what you want (loving), and if not, let it go. Greg says that developing a healthy relationship is difficult enough--why work on one that is seriously flawed when you could start over with better tools and a partner more willing and able to participate in a relationship based on Real Love?  You don't have to learn Real Love alone.  There is a whole community of people out there willing to love you and help you learn.

 

Many blessings.

KarenH

Certified Real Love Coach

 

The more I change, the more my boyfriend shows his getting and protecting behaviors.  I realize that is the only love he knows, but it is getting difficult to stick with him through this.  He believes that there should be no discussion regarding our relationship and he just disappears with no communication for weeks at a time.  He returns as if nothing has happened.

 

I realize he has been treated this way in his life, but when do I get to the point where I put my foot down and stop feeling like a doormat?  A part of me wants him to know that I still love him even through all of this.  Feeling new at this, I don't know what the best action is.  Do I still tell him I love him or just wait until he finishes with his running away?  Do I continue to accept him back as if nothing happened?  How do I tell him lovingly that you don't treat people like this?

 

I need help.

 

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