Real Love Forums : Verge of tears... http://www.reallove.com/forums/ This is an XML content feed of; Real Love Forums : Miscellaneous : Verge of tears... Sat, 25 May 2013 17:47:06 +0000 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 12:40:47 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 9.71 360 www.reallove.com/forums/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=1115 Real Love Forums http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_images/forum_header.jpg http://www.reallove.com/forums/ Verge of tears... : Hi there Honey. There's a... http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5230#5230 Author: rlpkaren
Subject: 1115
Posted: 26 Jan 2012 at 12:40pm

Hi there Honey.  There's a free conference call just about every day--hop on any one of them. It is the quickest and easiest way to start making contact with folks and you can also get phone numbers of people so you can talk one on one.  I believe there is a live Real Love group in your town as well.  I don't have the number right off hand, but it's in one of the drop downs on the home page and also here in the Forum.  If I have time later (I'm at work) I'll edit this post and add.

Love,
KarenH
]]> Thu, 26 Jan 2012 12:40:47 +0000 http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5230#5230 Verge of tears... : Hello Karen,I have just returned... http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5229#5229 Author: wonder
Subject: 1115
Posted: 25 Jan 2012 at 9:27pm

Hello Karen,
I have just returned home and so glad to be here.  I would love to be put in touch with someone that I can tell the truth about myself.  I am confused because I feel I am learning to act without protecting behaviors but things are blowing up in my face with my husband.  I am reading books, working with a counselor, and trying to take care of myself so I can love others.  I realize I don't know how.
Love
C
]]> Wed, 25 Jan 2012 21:27:59 +0000 http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5229#5229 Verge of tears... : Hello Wonder. I can't tell... http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5199#5199 Author: rlpkaren
Subject: 1115
Posted: 12 Jan 2012 at 10:16am

Hello Wonder.  I can't tell from your profile where you live (that's why it's helpful for us coaches when you do fill in more information).  There is a Real Love event this weekend (January 14-15th, 2012) in Phoenix, AZ.  It would help you more than you can imagine.  Information is on the website, or I could also put you in touch with someone.
Love,
KarenH
]]> Thu, 12 Jan 2012 10:16:51 +0000 http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5199#5199 Verge of tears... : Thank you for all your supportive... http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5194#5194 Author: wonder
Subject: 1115
Posted: 11 Jan 2012 at 10:28pm

Thank you for all your supportive words.  I am feeling stronger and have more clarity these last couple of days.  I have been working so hard this last year on my behavior and taking responsibility for myself.  I didn't realize how my behavior prevented me from really connecting with others.  I have come a long way but realize I have a ways to go. 

I want to grow more and more each day in understanding real love.  I so desire to fill up the empty spaces inside me...I know I can only do that here.  I face so many challenges yet.....
]]> Wed, 11 Jan 2012 22:28:55 +0000 http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5194#5194 Verge of tears... : Hi there wonder, You sound just... http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5192#5192 Author: RoknRob121
Subject: 1115
Posted: 07 Jan 2012 at 3:13pm

Hi there wonder,
You sound just like the rest of us.
Welcome to this loving community Hug
 
There is so much to digest as you're learning & growing.
Would you feel better IF you met some of us in person?
Attending a seminar would eliminate alot of the loneliness
and detachment. or maybe starting a Loving Group in your area
these are just suggestions to put your faith in action. 
 
You're free to choose how far you want to grow in Real Love
That's where your healing begins, actually SEEing & feeling loved
in the moment you're sharing your TRUTH.
I cried alot my first year, too. It cleansed my soul and allowed me
to refill on the necessary love & acceptance that I truly needed.
I SEE you clearly in this moment.
You're absolutely loved & accepted for WHO you are.
I felt connected to you because you shared so much of yourself with us
in this post.
 
You belong on the Field of Life with us, I welcome you.
Your happiness is at the end of this painfulness.
 
Lovingly,
~ Robin ~


Edited by RoknRob121 - 19 Jan 2012 at 5:25pm]]> Sat, 07 Jan 2012 15:13:36 +0000 http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5192#5192 Verge of tears... : Thanks for sharing your thoughts.... http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5186#5186 Author: DeathereX
Subject: 1115
Posted: 05 Jan 2012 at 5:49pm

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I can see you, accept you, and love you when you tell the truth.
Keep doing it!

DeathereX


Edited by DeathereX - 05 Jan 2012 at 5:50pm]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2012 17:49:10 +0000 http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5186#5186 Verge of tears... : Thank you for letting me see you.... http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5183#5183 Author: Lorna
Subject: 1115
Posted: 05 Jan 2012 at 12:20pm

Thank you for letting me see you. You need to feel loved, and guess what? I love you! 

You are precious and understandably needy as you've been crying out for love your whole life and received little or none. 

This is not an easy path, but a worthwhile one. There will be ups and downs but one day you'll look back and go WOAH how different is my life?? Stick with it. Keep sharing yourself, your true self, including all the behaviours you can see. 

With love,

Lorna Smile
]]> Thu, 05 Jan 2012 12:20:54 +0000 http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5183#5183 Verge of tears... : Hello All,I have sat in front... http://www.reallove.com/forums/forum_posts.asp?TID=1115&PID=5177#5177 Author: wonder
Subject: 1115
Posted: 03 Jan 2012 at 12:28pm

Hello All,
I have sat in front of this board reading posts, I have listened in on conference calls, and have read the Real Love book.  Whenever I find myself starting to reach out I find tears welling up inside me.  I have felt alone, lonely, and then very angry my entire life.  I reach out to others and then recoil or find reason to not continue a relationship.  Growing up, On the outside I had all the right 'appearances'.... on the inside I would lose myself to a fantasy world to cope with feeling so useless, a disappointment to others.  I don't pretend to be fake I just don't know how to connect, so appeared aloof, distant.  My insides would ache.

Now, I hide the sadness less.  I seem turned all inside out with my emotions.  I feel out of control when I get that abandoned feeling (husband triggers that alot)  I feel so lost.

In the last 6 months, I have had several wake-up calls and grateful for them.  A brush with death, another marriage failing, and all I know I can't spend the next 40 years of my life like the last 40.  I have always wanted to be accepted but didn't know how to go about.  I have several friends in my life that I know are good people but I can't stand the neediness inside me.  I exhaust others.  (at least I believe I do) I am clinging and I don't want to...I can't figure how to let go.  I am married to a man who is emotionally distant (funny that, huh...just like me...and it feeds the cycle in me....reach out to him, he is distant, I recoil into myself, feel abandoned and want the pain to stop so I reach out again) 
I want off the UN-merry-go-round !!!!

So here I am.  I want to cry.  (OK, now I am)  I want someone to find me. I wish to feel full inside.  I am growing older but not growing up inside (a little like Jimmy Buffet, I know)

Thank you for letting me share here
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